[Question #3705] Father concerned about babysitter and 4 year daughter.

35 months ago
Hi, I'm sorry to bother you again, but I'm desperate. I've found out that the newly hired nanny (babysitter)  of my 4-year-old daughter likes swing parties, exchange of couples and such. I'm just terrified with that fact. Let's suppose she's hiv positive. I am afraid that in the day-to-day contact with my daughter, she came in contact with the intimate parts of my daughter, when bathing her, for example, washing inside the vagina. This thought made me very frustrated and angry at the same time. I wonder what chance, if she is infected with hiv, of transmitting the virus to my daughter, by bathing her, for example. Let's suppose that she has a bleeding in her hands, and then, in the bath, while assisting my daughter this bleeding hand or finger touches may daughter's intimate parts. Sometimes my daughter has wounds from mosquito bites, and I am afraid of a blood from their nanny fall on these wounds.  What are the chances? Should I take my daughter to test? 
 Thank you.

Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
35 months ago
Welcome back to the Forum although I'm sorry you felt the need to return for this 5th time in a about a month..  Before I briefly address your question, let me point out that your concerns are a reflection of your OCD, not any realistic risk for HIV.  Let me also point out that Dr. Handsfield warned you that repetitive anxiety-driven questions would receive brief or more typically, no answers. I will provide a single answer and then the thread will be closed.   Future questions will likely get no answers. 

finally, let me point out that you posted this question twice.  I closed the 2nd one already and would suggest you contact the administrator and request a re-fund of the second fee.

Your child is at no risk from contact with her nanny.  Before I provide the answer about risk however, let me point out that you have no right to ask your nanny about her sex life and in fact, as her employer, to do so may be illegal in some statesl.  Secondly, irrespective, the likelihood that she has HIV is miniscule.  Finally, as I told you previously "HIV is spread only through DIRECT sexual contact or injection of infected material deep into tissue. It is not spread through touching persons or surfaces which have been touched by or may have secretions from an infected person on them.  This is true even if the person you met had open sores on their hands or if you had open sores which came into contact with there  open sores.  Still no risk."  No one has ever gotten HIV from touching an infected person, irrespective of presence of sores, bleeding mosquito bites, etc.  No risk.

There is no reason for you to worry about your daughter acquiring HIV from her nanny as the nanny carries out her usual care activities, nor is there any reason for having your daughter tested.  My advice is for you to focus on addressing your OCD, not worrying that your nanny might give your daughter HIV.  EWH
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35 months ago
Thank you so much for the answer, doc!!