I’m a 29 year old male and I had unprotected intercourse with a woman over the weekend. We started with a condom and against better judgement ended up not using one the rest of the time. This isn’t typical behavior from me and I had the talk with her before we did anything over whether she was clean which she told me she was. I’ve never contracted an STD before and have been tested twice. I had been with the same girl for the last few years. I’ve gotten more and more concerned over the last couple days worrying that I could have contracted herpes. I’m not showing any symptoms at the moment. I had the same kind of fears the last two times I’ve been tested. I’m planning on being tested in two weeks for chlamydia and gonnorhea to be sure. What’s the likelihood that I could have contracted herpes from a one night stand? Should I be overly concerned? 

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Not sure on asking her to get a test herself. To be honest this has caused me some anxiety and I’ve been checking myself every couple of hours. I noticed a couple of red dots on the penis head this morning but no pain/itching. I want to say that I’ve seen these type of dots before. I had a blood test done a couple of years ago and everything came back negative. Do those red dots sound like anything to be concerned about?

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Thank you for the response. I did see this person 4 more times, 3 of which involved unprotected sex. I reaffirmed with her that she had been tested in December and she insisted I didn’t have anything to worry about. I still have anxiety over this. I haven’t had any symptoms. I have the aforementioned red dots that appear and disappear off and on in different places which I find myself overanalyzing. Additionally one night last week I had some redness on my penis with no pain or itching. If I don’t see any symptoms in the next week should I still be concerned? 

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