Hello Again Doctors,

It has been awhile since you calmed my irrational HIV fears. I appreciate that. I have another new fear that popped up due to new circumstances and was hoping you could do the same.

When I originally got tested for HIV the first time, 20 days post exposure, the Dr (who said I had no chance at HIV) said I had a very slight Ghon/Chlamyida risk so he tested be for those too. It was a urine, NAAT test.  They came back negative. It was so long ago I have NO idea how long beforehand I peed. COuld have been an hour, could have been 5 mins before I got to the office. The reason I'm worried is that my wife and I have reconciled and I began to have unprotected intercourse with her. About a month after our first time, she bled a little. Then we had  along dry spell and just last weekend we did it again and again a little blood. She also told me her period are a little heavy, but she claims it's been that way for awhile. No other symptoms to report besides pains during period but again she says that's normal for her. THe slight bleeding is not normal and that makes me fear I infected her.

With the HIV fear, I also got a full panel at labcorp done 90+ days post exposure. They also did a chlym/ghon test but I've read you both say that blood testing for those isn't very accurate, so if I read correctly then the only possible accurate test was the urine 19/20 days post exposure? So, if I went to the bathroom too soon or gave too much sample would that be an issue? Does my wife's symptoms lead you to believe she could have caught something from me? My risk, again, wasn't inter course. It was me f I n g e r I n g the woman, touching myself with the same hand I used to finger, her very briefly putting her finger in my behind, and her ONCE licking the tip of my p e n I s. But that was it.

Thank you,

Thank you Dr. I Appreciate your take.

To be clear as I realize it's hard to follow the path. I had my incident, 20 days later I received the urine naat test (along with hiv test). Then at 90 days received full panel (just looked at panel results and seems that the ghon/chlam/trich test was urine, I just don't remember peeing in cup but so be it). In had s e x with wife randomly while we were still split up once, then again one month later I f I n g e r e d her and that is when she bled. Then, a few months later, we decided to get back together and again in s e x she bled a little. So even though this was split months apart it happened both times.

I don't believe anyone else would have given it to her. We had a pretty frank discussion about that issue and she had no reason to lie. I do remember when we had s e x the first time after my incident, she did not bleed but I recall a lot of dry skin ending up on my shaft and head. I'm thinking perhaps if there is dry skin for her there that oculd lead to bleeding, if it isn't std related? Also, she had a papsmear a month back and that was normal, although she refused to talk to dr about my risk because she thinks I'm being ridiculous.

Lastly, I've had a consistent very slight sore through for almopst 2 months. Only in one spot and only when I swallow saliva, not food or drink. I know that can be a sign of std's. I went to my dr and he suggested it could be allergy related as I've had some post nasal drip and since taking Flonase it has improved dramatically, if not completely. Does any of this change your opinion?

Thank you again and have a nice weekend.