I am a female in my late 30's. 6 weeks ago I was with a male who I know very well.  Mutual masterbation and also used a vibrator he used his saliva on it for me. The vibrator was only used on me.  No genital contact at all.  About 5 days later I felt the need to urinate all of the time.  I went to a clinic and was tested by vaginal swab for std's at 3 weeks after my encounter.  Everything was negative.  Also did a urinalysis. Was clear. Nothing. I was on doxycycline at the time for a sinus infection and had just finished my antibiotic course-didn't know if that affects my test results.   3 more weeks and still having the same symptom. Went to my regular OBGYN and they did std tests and another urinalysis. Everything was negative again. Urinalysis negative to. Can I believe my tests?  Am I missing any tests. Was tested for chlamydia, gonorrhea, Trichomoniasis, BV, yeast and syphillis.  No discharge. Just the urgent need to pee.  He was a little rough with the vibrator. I just want to move on and not worry about STD. Can I?  I am married and don't want to risk my husband. Please help. I am still very worried I have an STD.  

Welcome to the Forum.  I'll be please to comment.  This was a very low risk encounter - STIs are not spread through mutual masturbation of in saliva.  Further, I presume you were on doxycycline both at the time of your casual encounter and when you were tested.  If so, this could have two markedly reduced the likelihood that you would be infected with chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis.  Your second tests, including the urinalysis, off antibiotics effectively rule out the infection you were tested for, including a UTI.  My sense is that you are in the clear STI-wise.  Sometimes when person's are concerned about an exposure, they tend to focus on their genital regions and in doing so, notice otherwise normal sensations that they would otherwise overlook - perhaps this is what is occurring in this instance.  I would not worry further about an STI.

I hope this comment is helpful.  EWH

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I had started the doxycycline a couple of days after my encounter with this person. Also the vibrator was not mine it was his girlfriends who was out of town.  Does that change anything?  He said she never used it. It looked clean and dry. If she did use it there was at least 4 hours in between use. Again if she used it. He claims she did not.  Again no genital to genital contact. Just mutual masterbation and use of vibrator with his saliva.  Didn't know if any of this would change your response.  Thank you. 

Thanks for the clarification.  There is no risk associated with having used someone else's vibrator.  STIs are not transmitted by inanimate objects. 

Taking all into consideration, I would still consider this a no risk event which is now verified by your test results.  I would not worry more about STIs from the encounter you described.  EWH

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Thank you so much for the quick response.  I am going to follow up with my dr regarding the urgency to urinate. I do have some lower pelvic pain as well. I just don't want to have to worry about std's anymore when I go to my dr.  Should I mention the "encounter" anymore to my regular dr or let that go and focus and another cause for my urinary issues and pelvic pain?  I just don't want to leave out any important info for my regular dr. But I too want to move on and not talk about std if I do not have to. Thanks again. 

I think approaching this persistent problem with your own doctor is an appropriate next step. I favor always telling doctors all of the relevant factors.  Who your partner was however is probably less important than the activity itself.  Part of the important question that I suspect your doctor will ask is whether or not things are getting better or worse.  Please feel free to tell her/him about this exchange as well if you wish.  EWH
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