[Question #4438] Unfounded Fear?

29 months ago
Doctors, ya'll have definitly got me through some tough times.  

I know you can read my prior posts.   But quick recap.

1 year ago, received oral sex from prostitute in Morocco, Africa.   2 negative 4th gen tests at 10 weeks and 6 months.  

5 months ago.  Had protected sex and unprotected oral both ways with Russian tourist female.   A week after or so.  She tested negative in russia for all stds.  Exactly 10 weeks after exposure, I tested negative for all including a 4th gen test.    So.....  I moved on. 

I have 11 month old twins, and last week one had fever (mild) for 3-4 days that would break when given tylenol.  And stopped finishing his bottle at night (although eats solids fine)....    I know yall are not pediatricians..  but I saw somewhere that chewing food could spread hiv for babies.    But for one, I should not have HIV (according to tests).   But still freaked me out, occasionally I bite off a piece of food for the babies to make a smaller piece.   I do not chew their food..  Are my fears completely unwarranted?     
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
29 months ago
Yes, unfounded fear -- as you should know based on our previous discussions. You were at no significant risk for HIV and you know your test result proved you don't have it. And HIV is never transmitted to children in the house except through sexual abuse. And young kids get fever all the time from garden-variety, minor viral infections. Transmission of the virus by food is exceedingly uncommon, and in any case is impossible since you don't have it.

You've got to stop coming the forum to be told once again what you already know. Repeated anxiety driven questions are not welcome, in part because they carry little educational value for other users, one of the forum's main purposes. This will have to be your last along these lines. Thanks for your understanding.

HHH, MD
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29 months ago
Thanks Dr Hansfield...   I already knew the answer..  just stress sometimes about the kiddos.   I need to stay off google.  Have a great weekend! 
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
29 months ago
I'm glad you understand and agree. Anxious persons are so easily misled by web searching -- they tend to be drawn to items that inflame their fears and don't "see" the reassuring information also present. Nate Silver, head of the famous FiveThirtyEight website, wrote a book on statistics, "The Signal and the Noise". In it he says (approximate quote) "Give an anxious person a computer with an internet connection, and soon he'll be thinking his cold is the bubonic plague."

If you can't lay off the internet entirely, at least try to limit searching on HIV risks etc to professional sites like academic medical centers, universities, public health departments, or professionally moderated sites like this one. Avoid sites run by and for infected people or those at risk, and those sponsored by any company or person with a product to sell.

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28 months ago
Doc.. last question to close out the post.  Any real risk of any STD from receiving condom protected oral sex (bj) and hand job?   I know the hand job is probably no risk, just not sure about syphilis or herpes from the protected bj.  
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
28 months ago
Zero risk. Suck it up, believe it, and move on.

Please note the forum does not permit repeated questions on the same topic. This will have to be your last one; future new questions about obviously low risk exposures may not be answered, in which case the posting fee will not be refunded. This policy is based on compassion, not criticism, and is designed to reduce temptations to keep paying for questions with obvious answers. In addition, experience shows that continued answers tend to prolong users' anxieties rather than relieving them. Finally, such questions have little educational value for other users, one of the forum's main purposes. Thank you for your understanding.

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