[Question #4496] Exposure risk?

29 months ago
Hi. I just had a massage. The message guy got a little friendly at the end and kissed my penis. Just wondering what the chances of getting herpes/syphilis or any other std. 

(The read no oral or anything like that)
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
29 months ago
Welcome back to the forum and thanks for your succinct question. However, it is very similar to your two previous quesitons two years ago. Here is the main part of my reply to your most recent previous question:

"STDs are not transmitted by means other than direct sex. With rare exceptions, that means penile penetration into another person's vagina, rectum or mouth. Even oral sex is low risk for all STDs and zero risk for some...." Dr. Hook and I also said that skin-to-skin or other body contact is risk free.

The apparent new aspect here was the brief kiss of your penis. As just stated, oral sex is low risk -- and a quick kiss like this apparently was (with his lips closed, i.e. no contact with the inside of his mouth?) -- is zero risk for any and all STDs. No worries and no need for testing.

However, I'll make the observation that in your first question on the forum, you called yourself heterosexual. In the next question, you said bisexual. And now, you allowed a masseur (male) to briefly kiss your penis. (You might be fooling yourself if you're laying the responsibility on the masseur. Massage workers, male or female, are unlikely to take that step without permission or at least body language that invites such contact.) I raise all this not to challenge your sexual attractions or choices. They are what they are, and it seems possible you're heading toward more overt sex with other men. If so, I urge you to prepare yourself -- have a condom handy in settings where sex might be expected and choose your partners wisely, which means (among other things) asking about their HIV/STD status before proceeding.

I hope this information is helpful, and that these comments did not overstep your expectations or desires. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD
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