I’m considering having sex with a woman with whom I’ve been getting involved who still tests positive for an HPV strain that has already caused her to develop precancerous cells, which have been removed. Am I a complete idiot to do this when the chances of this really becoming a long-term, serious relationship are very uncertain? 

I’m a 45-year old non-smoker. She is 27 and first learned she had HPV in 2014; in Jan. 2018 she had an abnormal pap and precancerous cells were found, removed in Feb.; she was still testing positive for HPV. 

Is it correct that 90% of people clear the HPV infection within 2 years? Including the carcinogenic strains? Does the fact that she has not cleared HPV in 4+ years have any bearing on whether I’d be able to clear it? If I am likely to “clear” HPV, would I no longer be at risk to develop cancer from it, but would I remain a carrier that will transmit HPV to future partners? 

Does it make any difference if I use a condom, or am I virtually guaranteed to get it either way? If I perform cunnilingus (no dental dam), am I virtually guaranteed to get it? Will I be at high risk for penile and oral cancer? Is there any issue with fingering her? 

If I have a future relationship with someone else, can I pass it to that future woman by performing cunnilingus? If she performs fellatio on me? Simply by kissing? Whether by the above or by vaginal sex, will I be virtually guaranteed to pass HPV on and put her at high risk for cervical or oral cancer?