Hello,

I am a 63 year old male that has recently met a 60 year old woman that I could easily "fall in love" with, and have a long-term relationship with (perhaps even marriage.)  To my knowledge, I am sexually clean.  Over the course of my life, I have been tested for STDs maybe about 8 times, and each time the results were completely clean.  The last test was about 2 years ago.

The woman I have met has HSV-2, genital Herpes.  Her outbreaks are always in the same place, one place, in or near (I do not know which) her vaginal area.  I have recently read literature about Herpes, but would like to provide specific information in order to get a better understanding of my risks.  I feel there are mitigating factors, including the following.

-  she has had HSV-2 for approximately 32 years

-  she has not had an outbreak in approximately 2 years

-  she diligently takes Valcyclovir every evening

-  to her knowledge, she has not infected anyone

-  to her knowledge, she did not infect her ex-husband (they were married after she became infected, and they were married 20 years)

-  we will be mindful of outbreaks, and not engage in sexual activities during the outbreak.

I would like to know as many of my risks as possible, including but not limited to kissing, oral sex (each direction), "fingering", and intercourse.   Please include statistics (even guesses.)  There will not be any anal sex.  If there were an outbreak, what activities would be safe?  (I assume kissing.  Maybe her giving me oral sex?)  Is it possible that I could be resistant to Herpes, and if so, how can this be tested?

Thank you for your help.

Sincerely.

Kissing is no risk, her giving you oral sex (assuming she only has HSV 2 genitally) presents no risk, fingering with intact fingers present no risk, giving her oral sex is very low risk but no zero, and intercourse, with her on daily therapy, is low risk - perhaps a 2% risk per year having intercourse about twice per week.  Before you go too careful here, it would be good for you to get an IgG test to determine that you are not infected and don't know it.  Please let me know what other questions you might have

Terri