[Question #4752] Hiv

28 months ago
Hello,
I recently had unprotected vaginal sex:((( dumbest decision in my life. I asked the guys status and he said he doesn’t have hiv. I asked him couple of times. I live in MN he’s from Iowa. I’m really worried that I might have contracted the virus. Im not sure how many women he slept with before we had sex and whether he used protection. We only slept together once. I had a swollen lymph node on the left side of my buttocks and sometimes I feel like I have UTIs and it would hurt when I pee. But then I would drink water and it’ll go away but if it gets cold outside that happens again :((( I’m really worried to get tested :((( I’m so terrified. He’s a doctor but that doesn’t mean much at this point. Anyone can get it. Please let me know what is my risk :(((( thank you
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
28 months ago
Welcome to our Forum.  I'll be glad to comment and hope that you will find my comments helpful.  Obviously we both wish you had used a condom for this exposure and because it was unprotected, there is some risk of having acquired an STI but that risk is small.  Let me provide you with some perspective:
1.  Most people do not have STIs and even when they do, most exposures do not lead to infection.  
2. In the Midwest where you and your partner live, STIs are relatively less common than in other parts of the nation.
3.  Among STIs your risk for chlamydia is higher than your risk for other STIs.  The risk for HIV is VERY low- few heterosexual men have HIV and even if your partner did have HIV, more than 99.9% of exposures to HIV infected partners do not lead to infection.

I would suggest that you get tested for the most common STIs (chlamydia, gonorrhea, trichomonas anytime more than 3 days after the exposure. Test results at that time will be definitive.  I suspect you will want to get tested for HIV as well.  Unfortunately, it takes longer for HIV blood test results to be definitive- at 4 weeks after the exposure, your results will be more than 99% conclusive and at 6 weeks, the results will be entirely conclusive.

I hope these comments are helpful.  I would not worry too much, your risk of having acquired ANY STI is quite low.  EWH
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28 months ago
I am not sure if this will submit my reply. i also purchased another question but it didn't go through. how worried should I be? I am just very concerned about HIV :((((( im very scared to go get tested. i havent slept since six weeks ago when we had intercourse. :(((((((((( even if i had another sti i am not worried just for hiv. how long before i start showing symptoms??? have you ever been wrong in your predictions? im extremely terrified :((((( thank you
28 months ago
what symptoms should I be looking for????  i am extremely scared and terrified :(((((((((( i feel like i ruined my life forever :(((( frankly idk if he knew about his status. he said he doesnt have it despite him being a surgeon :(((( maybe it was a newly acquired infection :((( lets say he lied and wasnt being honest about his status. what is my chance of having the virus????? like i cant explain the amount of anxiety im experiencing. can i sue him about lying about his status? i purchased question 4753 but idk why nothing got posted on there :((((((( thanks doc. 
28 months ago
the hiv is the only thing im asking about. the rest if i had acquired it i think i can live with it but not hiv :(((((( whats my chance of having the virus????? like im extremely terrified and nervous i just want to die for making such a huge mistake :(((((((((
28 months ago
Do you think the uti symptoms I’m experiencing could be hiv and Chlamydia?
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
28 months ago
Please be patient.  Our Forum is not staffed 24/7.  We do our bet to reply within 12-18 hours of questions.  

You are over reacting.  Please re-read my response.  It should be obvious that, on at least a theoretical basis and person who takes part in unprotected sex is a some risk for STIs, including HIV.  At the same time, as I also explained, your risk for infection from a single brief encounter in the Midwestern U.S. is VERY LOW!.  At the same time, to be sure, it is reasonable and appropriate to go on and get tested.  In that it is now 6 weeks since your exposure, all test results, including HIV will be definitive.  I anticipate that they will be negative.  

The be afraid to test makes no logical sense.  Testing does not give you infection, it just gives you knowledge about whether or not you are and, if you are, allows you to do something about it.  In your case, I anticipate that your tests will be negative.
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28 months ago
hi doc 
its me again. i know i have asked you this before but what are my chances of acquiring the virus after i have described everything? :( i am extremely worried about this. its very possible the results to turn out positive :((( thanks. 
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
28 months ago
This is a repetitive question.  The answers are not going to change.  You risk for HIV from the exposures you have described is miniscule.  If you test, there is a greater than 99% chance that your tests will be negative.  Testing will not change whether or not you have HIV, it will only provide you with information to take charge of your life.

This is my 3rd response to this question.  Therefore, as per Forum guidelines, this thread will now be closed.  Additional repetitive questions may not be answered.  EWH
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