[Question #4770] Did i give my wife an STI?

27 months ago
This a follow up from an earlier question.    [Question #4594] Semi-Protected oral sex received from stripper.   Please see that one first.

Right after that incident, I learned that my wife is pregnant, and we resumed unprotected sex.  Additionally, not long afterward, she says it hurts when she pees.  She has visited the doctor, and they have ruled out a urinary tract infection.  I have looked online, and the only other common reason why she would feel pain urinating would be an STI.   

Based on the incident I described in Question 4594, which was answered by Terri Warren, the chances of me contracting pretty much any STI from that encounter seems to be little to zero.  However, I am very afraid that I might have caught something and given it to my wife.   They sent out her urine sample for testing and concluded she did not have a UTI.

If the doctor finds that she caught an STI from me, while pregnant nonetheless, my goose will be cooked.   My question is whether this is something I even need to worry about, based on the incident described, or whether the chances are so low that there is no point in worrying about this.

Please let me know what you think.

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
27 months ago
Welcome back to the forum.

As Terri advised in your previous question, there is virtually no chance of any STD from the exposure events described. Second, it is absolutely wrong that UTIs and STDs are the only common causes of painful urination in women. There are many others. Third, the only STD likely to cause painful urination in a woman and that you might catch from oral sex is gonorrhea -- and the fact that you haven't had obvious symptoms yourself (pus dripping from penis, painful urination) is strong evidence against gonorrhea. And anyway, your doctor likely tested your wife for STDs like gonorrhea and chlamydia (most doctors test pregnant women routinely) -- and you would have heard about it if the results were positive. Even without that testing, you really have no worries. 

In summary, your own statement is exactly right:  "the chances are so low that there is no point in worrying about this."

I would add that I strongly suggest you stop searching online about any of this. It seems like you're online investigation is accomplishing its normal effect for anxious persons:  you're being drawn to information that inflames your fears and missing the reassuring evidence that also is there.

I hope this information is helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.