[Question #4777] cont question again

27 months ago
hi dr hook
im sorry im posting again but i started experiencing major headaches and i am very sensitive to light :((( im just confused cause people still get infected with the virus, and clearly my encounter did not involve usage of a condom :((( i apologize for posting again :(
27 months ago
what else could cause swollen lymph node in that area where i described? :( 
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
27 months ago
I'll be answering this time. Dr. Hook and I have emailed one another about your many posts, which have almost entirely repeated the same questions in different words, and your apparent difficulty in understanding or believing Dr. Hook's expert professional judgment that you were at no significant risk of HIV and the strong evidence you were not infected. He predicted you would be back with similar concerns. The following probably will sound like a lecture, but it's just common sense and is intended to help you get beyond your fears of HIV.

I will repeat Dr. Hook's advice that you must be HIV tested. It is irrational, and frankly immature, that you have not followed his advice on testing. Fear of the result is not a legitimate reason to avoid testing for HIV, or for any other serious health condition. It is not the testing that gives someone the infection, cancer, or whatever condition is being tested. You have it or you don't; and if you do, you have a responsibility to yourself to know it -- and for infections like HIV, a responsibility to those you might infect in the future. Also, when people delay testing for fear of the result, anxiety declines after the test is finally done, even if the result is positive. Clearing the air and knowing for sure is less stressful than the fear that existed before the test was done. The same applies not only to HIV testing, but to things like mammograms in women with breast lumps or colonoscopy in someone with rectal bleeding.

So here's the deal on this forum:  get tested. After you have done that, if you would like to return to the forum with the result, we would be happy to have that question and to discuss it with you. This thread will remain open for you to post the result, but there will be no further discussion until then, and any other new questions from you will be deleted without reply and without refund of the posting fee. This is the policy for all users with repeated, anxiety driven questions about the same exposure, symptoms, etc. We have found that continuing to answer such questions generally prolongs the user's anxiety instead of helping it, and this apparently has been the case with your repeated questions.

So this is the last one until and unless you return to report your HIV test result. Please understand that this decision is based on compassion, not criticism. Dr. Hook and I look forward to hearing from you after your test. In the meantime, try to stop worrying; and ignore any and all current or new symptoms you may have. No matter what symptoms you may have, they will not be due to HIV from the exposure you are concerned about.

Best wishes--  HHH, MD
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26 months ago
Hi Dr. Handsfield I’m still very concerned. I know you said I shouldn’t post anything but I’m too scared to get tested. :(( I really feel like I have the virus. :(( I think I have a yeast infection and also I have lower leg pain. I can’t believe I ruined my life like this :( I was too naive to trust that person. I’ve also been somewhat sick the past five days. I have a stuffy nose and I feel like it’s not going away:(( 
26 months ago
is it possible the pain in my lower leg to be due to swollen painful lymph nodes as a result of the virus? :((
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
26 months ago
I'm sorry, this forum cannot help you further. You came here for expert professional advice, but you are ignorning everything you have been told. You're also behaving very immaturely. It's time to grow up and get responsible for your own health. Get tested. And re-read all the previous replies, and concentrate on them.  the answers to your concerns are there, several times.

The forum does not permit repeated questions on the same topic or exposure. This being your fourth, and given your history of ignoring our advice in all of them, it will have to be your last. Future new questions about this exposure, your symptoms, and your fears about HIV will receive no reply and the posting fee will not be refunded. This policy is based on compassion, not criticism, and is designed to reduce the temptation to keep paying for questions with obvious answers. In addition, experience shows that continued answers tend to prolong users' anxieties rather than reducing them. Finally, such questions have little educational value for other users, one of the forum's main purposes. Thanks for your understanding.
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