[Question #5141] Oral to Genital/Anal Risk of HSV-2?

23 months ago
Hi,

I'm a 35yo straight male in a 2-year monogamous relationship. 5 days ago I foolishly and drunkenly met a girl at a bar while I was out of town and went home with her.

To make things worse, she told me before anything happened that she has tested positive for oral HSV-2. I found that a bit surprising bc I always thought that was genital-only, and I shouldn't have gone any further but of course my stupid horny self let her give me a handjob using spit and lube. She also playfully bit me on the butt a few times after the handjob. Somehow, thankfully, we never kissed.

I didn't see any sores on her mouth, but like I said she told me she had tested positive for oral HSV2 (maybe recently? not sure, I should have asked). I'm mostly concerned about the spit, though maybe I should worry about the bite too? It didn't break skin, though I think it was close to the butt crack / anus (sorry I was pretty drunk).

Does this sound like it could transmit herpes or any other STI? Also I have oral HSV1 from childhood, could I still get genital HSV1?

I'm freaking out, and of course I've been feeling a lot of itching/tingling on my butt the last few days, and I have one darkish bump on my butt that itches. It doesn't look like any pictures I've seen of herpes sores, and it's just the one, but of course it makes me worry more.

Please help me figure out how to proceed, I might have to tell my girlfriend about this encounter (I probably should either way).

Also thank you so much for this service.
23 months ago
Forgot to include that my balls have also been itching, it's not just my butt. It's on and off for the last 2-3 days. If this was herpes, would sores have shown up by now?
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
23 months ago
I'm so sorry you are freaking out about this - absolutely no need to freak out.  HSV 2 is an uncommon situation but when HSV 2 is oral, it is rarely re-activated, perhaps on a few days out of the year.  And saliva is not an adequate carrier of virus, when transferred to a hand, to infect you.  The way to proceed is to do nothing at all.  I am assuming here that you already know that you are HSV 2 negative prior to this contact? 

Terri
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23 months ago
Hi Terri,

Thank you very much for your reply. Yes, I know from tests a few months into my relationship that I am HSV2 negative. This certainly puts me at ease!
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
23 months ago
You're welcome

Terri
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