[Question #5239] A different problem now

22 months ago
Hello Dr’s,

I asked a question Previously on this forum in regards to my worry of HIV and you answered the questions pretty clearly but I find myself still in the midst of a lot of worry. 

The situation is that I had exposure that I was worried about and subsequently tested using fourth generation that based tests  through STD check.com which uses quest diagnostics as the laboratory. The test were conducted on the 58th day and 130th day still essentially eight weeks and 18 1/2 weeks     Both tests were negative   

 I’ve had scares over the last 2 1/2 to 3 years a few times and I’ve always gone crazy with the testing and this time I literally took only two tests. 

 I feel I’ve gotten to the point where I am realizing that there is a bigger issue in terms of my thinking and not being able to move past my fear of HIV. What drives me crazy is after intercourse with my girlfriend she tends to get sick a few weeks later and then this cycle of worry and fear just keeps coming back   

 Sorry for the long-winded details above of my mental state but just for reassurance purposes with the above negative tests I should have absolutely zero fear and further testing for this disease would be a waste of time and money, am I correct in that conclusion? 

 Would there be any reason for me to have a further test from a scientific standpoint? 

I don’t even feel that testing for a non-scientific conclusion is even worth it because all I do is live in this cycle of testing and fear of testing and fear. 

I guess I paid again  to find some reassurance as I have also lowered the frequency of intercourse with my girlfriend Auto some crazy made up for year in my mind even though I tell myself you have tested above and beyond what is considered conclusive. 

Thank you for your time and I hope it wasn’t a waste of time actually. 
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
22 months ago
I'm sorry, but these are essentially the same questions you have asked several times previously. I cannot give you any different reassuring statements than ones you have already seen, and would advise you to re-read your other threads. There is 100% conclusive evidence you do not have HIV; your inability to believe and accept that fact, in the face of repeated science-based reassurance, indicates a mental health problem. I suggest professional counseling. 

The forum does not permit repeated questions on the same topic or exposure. Future new questions about your HIV fears will receive no reply and the posting fee will not be refunded. This policy is based on compassion, not criticism, and to reduce temptations to keep paying for questions with obvious answers. In addition, experience shows that continued answers tend to prolong users' anxieties rather than reducing them. Finally, such questions have little educational value for other users, one of the forum's main purposes. Thanks for your understanding. 

In addition, I found at least four under your current username, but with at least two email addresses; and in the first of those you refer to previous question(s) that don't show up under your current username or email address. This also is against forum policy.

Best wishes to you.


22 months ago
Fair enough Dr- regarding this exposure I have asked two questions and both had different context to some degree. 

I’ll move forward and focus on the mental side of it since I obviously have no need for further testing. 
The question I guess was more of me voicing my concerns instead of bottling it up. 

Realizing the pattern of me worrying after intercourses with my girlfiend is a good step for me  along with the answers you guys have given about no need for further testing. 

Thanks again
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
22 months ago
I'm glad to have at least partly helped.---