[Question #5356] Did I gave her STD?

21 months ago
I went to a massage parlor in Thailand back in May 2018 (almost a year ago). 

Got a handjob from one of the girls there as well as a blowjob that lasted about 10 seconds with condom on. She used alot of oil while giving me a handjob. 

The entire session lasted about 30 minutes. She was completely naked and I cannot recall if we kissed or whether our genital came into contact with each other. Pretty sure we didnt but cannot be 100% sure.

After that incident, I have no STD symptoms at all but I vaguely  remembered that I have jock itch near my groin PRIOR to the trip.

That was my one and only sexual encounter in my entire life until 4 months ago when I got my first girlfriend. I am her first sexual partner. 

Recently, she developed a small bump/pimple beside her vagina opening that itches and hurt when pressure is applied. I got  worried that it may be due to STD, since she is 100% clean and my only encounter was the one at massage parlor, I was wondering if I got exposed to STD back then? 
21 months ago
Sorry to add but my groin area started itching a few days prior the trip but I only went to the doctor1-2 weeks later, so I think I have an infection on my groin during the handjob and protected blowjob. 

1) Am I at risk of any STD given my situation? 

2) Does the answer change if assuming she has herpes/HPV, can the virus somehow travel into my body via my infected groin area? 

3) Assuming the condom didnt cover my whole penis, is it possible for me to contact any STD from that short 10 seconds protected oral sex? 

4) If the answer to the above are no, then any idea what is the lump/pimple beside my girlfriend’s vagina? 
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
21 months ago
Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your question and your confidence in our services.

First, from your description, your sexual event a year ago was entirely risk free. You could not have acquired any STD.

As for your current girlfriend, it sounds like she might have a Bartholin gland cyst or abscess. (The two Bartholin glands are on each side of the vaginal opening, and are one of the sources of lubricating vaginal fluid.) Other glands in the same area also can get infected. Most such infections are not STDs, although sometimes gonorrhea is a cause. But even if that's the cause of your partner's problem, she did not get it from you. She only could be at risk from other sex partners. But even here, it would be rare for gonorrhea or other STD to cause this problem more than 4 months after being infected. You're in a much better position than I am to know if she was sexually active with other partners at that time, or since your relationship began. All things considered, I doubt she has gonorrhea or any STD. Anyway, my "diagnosis" is just a guess. She should see her doctor ASAP for proper medical evaluation.

To your specific questions:

1,3) You certainly are not at risk for STD from the massage experience. If your partner has an STD (not from you), you could be at risk. Oral contact with intact skin -- of the penis or anywhere else -- is low risk. Anyway, oral sex with a condom rarely has such direct contact, and even without a condom, oral sex is low risk for STDs.

2) Your partner's symptoms conceivably could be herpes, but definitely not HPV. But if she has either one, of course you are at risk.

4) Discussed above.

You don't need STD testing or treatment at this time. Your girlfriend should be examined -- after that, follow whatever advice she gets from her doctor.

I hope this information is helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

21 months ago

I think you misunderstood my second question. I had jock itch 1 year ago before my trip to Thailand and the massage. 

So i probably had jock itch during the massage and handjob. 

I am wondering if there is any chance for any STD to enter my body via the jock itch on my groin? 

I am asking relating to the massage from a year ago.

My girlfriend is definitely clean as I am her first sexual partner. So I am not worried she has STD. And the massage I had last year was my only sexual enounter. 
21 months ago
My questions were in relation to the massage experience I had one year ago.

1) I had jock itch at my groin during my time in Thailand so assuming the GIRL FROM THE MASSAGE PARLOR had herpes/HPV, is it possible for the virus to travel into my body via the jock itch affected area during the handjob or PROTECTED blowjob? 

2) I received a 10 second PROTECTED blowjob from the girl at the massage parlor. Is it possible for me to contact any STD assuming her mouth came into contact with the part of my penis not covered by condom.

3) I am my girlfriend’s first sexual partner, so she definitely doesn’t have STD prior to our relationship.
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
21 months ago
I knew the exposure you were talking about and understood about jock itch, the hand-genital contact, protected oral sex, etc. Your comments 1 and 2 make no difference in my opinioinr or advice. STDs do not travel through the body to unexposed sites.

3) I agree that if your partner never had sex with anyone else, she could not have an STD. She still should see a doctor for diagnosis.
21 months ago
Alright thank you so much for your reply

So in conclusion, there is no way for me to get any STD from the handjob I received as well as the 10 second protected blowjob I received one year ago. Even though I had jock itch during the massage. 

And since my girlfriend doesnt have any sexual partners before me, her condition now probably isnt something caused by STD. 

Am I right to say that? 
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
21 months ago
All correct.

You seem to have trouble getting beyond some anxieties about a distant past sexual decision you may regret. You did nothing wrong. Do your best to separate that reaction from infection risk; they are not the same. Deal with the former as you need to (maybe discuss with your girlfriend?) but forget the latter.

That completes the two comments included with each question, and so ends this thread. I hope the discussion has been helpful.