[Question #5393] Fondling/Masturbation

21 months ago
On 4/23/19, I engaged in mutual fondling with a new guy. He stimulated me with his fingers until I had an orgasm and I gave him a handjob until he ejaculated. He did not insert his fingers inside me (at least I don't think he did).  I washed my hands after I gave him the handjob. My questions are (1) if he had any sort of genital secretions on his hand when he was masturbating me (i.e., precum, ejaculate, etc) could his hand have transferred any STIs  to me, (2) if my I touched my vagina with ejaculate on my hand could that have transferred any STIs to me ( I do not think I did that but I can't quite remember since it was about a month ago), and (3) is it okay for me to engage in unprotected vaginal and oral sex with my boyfriend without worrying about giving him any STDs from my encounter with the new guy? My boyfriend and I broke up for a little over a month and during the time I met the new guy. I have since reconnected with my boyfriend. Thank you!
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
21 months ago
Welcome to our Forum.  I'll be glad to answer your questions and hope that you'll find my responses reassuring.  The general term for the activities you describe is mutual masturbation and STIs are not transmitted through mutual masturbation even though it is typical for persons taking part n mutual masturbatin to get each other's genital secretions on one another.  Thus that some of his ejeculate may have been introduced during your interactions was a no risk event.  There is no reason for concern and no need for testing.

I hope this information is helpful.  If anything is unclear or there are additional questions, please don't hesitate to use your followup questions.  EWH
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21 months ago
Thank you for your reply! What if some of his ejaculate or genital secretions made their way inside my vagina from his fingers/hands? Would that increase my STI risk? Thank you!
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
21 months ago
As I said above, even if some of his ejaculate was introduced into your vaguna during mutual masturbation your risk for infection would be minimal.  EWH---
21 months ago
I am currently being treated for bacterial vaginosis with Flagyl. I most likely had the BV at the time the mutual masturbation occurred. Does having BV increase my risk of getting an STI through mutual masturbation? 
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
21 months ago
Clearly you are worried about a potential exposure.  That does not change the scientific fact that STIs are not transmitted through mutual masturbation.  That answer does not change because you are being treated for bacterial vaginosis.

This is my 3rd reply to this set of questions.  As I mentioned earlier and as per Forum Guidelines, we provide up to three responses for each client's questions. Thus this thread will be closed shortly without further replies.  I hope my comments have been helpful and that you will be able to stop worrying.  EWH
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