[Question #5469] Drink Sharing & Breast/Nipple Sucking - STD Chances?

23 months ago
I been to a strip bar in Las Vegas on May 23rd 2019, I took lap dance from a stripper and in that process I kissed her body, breasts & sucked her nipples, also shared a drink in the same glass. NO mouth to mouth kissing & NO touching of genital area.

After I came back to home town on May 26th 2019 I shared an ice cream with my kids, after that both kids got sick down with fever, cough, cold one after other.

so far I didn't experienced any symptoms (cold, fever, fatigue etc.) but after 1 week I see one little bump between my buttocks line & one more in the front 2 centimeters below waist line in the start hair bush of genital area.

1. What are my chances of getting any type of STD's (Herpes, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia etc.) ?
2. What are the chances of me transmitting the STD's virus to my kids ages 3 & 4, as their immunity system might not be strong at this tender age ?
3. In how many months or weeks I should/can go for blood testing to screen for all type of STD's & possibly HIV ?
4. Should I take my family also for blood testing to screen for all STD's to free up my mind ?

Thanks much.
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
23 months ago
Welcome and thanks for your confidence in our services.

Some questions can be pretty accurately answered based only on the title of the question, probably including this one. You may have a mistaken impression about STDs. They are not simply genital area infections that can be easily transmitted. They are not passed from person to person by any means other than sex, usually meaning direct genital-genital or sometimes mouth-genital contact. There is no risk for any STD from kissing, non-genital skin contact, or mouth contact with skin, including breasts and nipples. There also is no risk from sharing cups, glasses, eating utensils, etc.

Now I have gone ahead and read your actual question. You are at nor risk at all. And even if you had an STD, it is impossible to spread to your kids (or anyone else) by ice cream or anything other than sex. And STDs don't cause cold symptoms like cough etc. They also don't cause skin bumps in areas not in direct intimate contact with a sex partner, and so cannot be the cause of the skin bump between your buttocks or anywhere else.

Those comments pretty well cover your questions, but to be sure no misunderstanding:

1) Zero risk.

2) Also zero risk.

3) You should not have any tests at all. If you have otherwise been at possible risk (i.e. any real sex with anyone other than your wife), you could have a urine test for gonorrhea and chlamydia (valid any time more than 4-5 days after contact) and blood tests for HIV and syphilis (any time 6 weeks or more after contact). But please do not get tested just because of your strip club experience.

4) No, you MUST NOT take your family members for testing. It would be inappropriate and unethical to scare them unnecessarily.

I hope these comments are helpful. Do your best to forget all this and move on without worry. Do not confuse your anxiety and regret over a sexual decision you regret with infection risk from that event. They are not the same.

23 months ago
What are my chances of getting STD's if the woman (assuming she has STD's or HIV+) is oozing some breast milk and it came into my mouth when i suck her nipples ?

Thank you for your responses.
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
23 months ago
No STDs are carried in breast milk or other secretions from women's breasts and there is no risk from oral exposure to such fluids. STD transmission requires direct genital-genital or oral-genital contact.---