[Question #5513] HSV2

20 months ago
Hello,

I have had HSV2 for about two years but I'm still unclear on a few things and don't know how to explain them to the person I am having sex with. Is he likely to contract the virus if he touches me then touches himself? I'm sure there's always a risk, but is it a risk worth being concerned about? How commonly is HSV2 seen on the mouth? From what I have read it sounds rare. I'm wondering what his risk is if he performs oral sex on me without protection. 

Thanks!
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
20 months ago
It is extremely unlikely if he touches you then touches himself that he would contract herpes from you.  I don't think it is a risk worth worrying about.  HSV 2 is rarely seen on the mouth.  And so the risk of him giving you oral sex is very low.  How were you diagnosed with HSV 2?  Do you get outbreaks that you recognize?  Are you taking daily antiviral medicine?  Has he also been tested to know that he is not infected?

Terri
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20 months ago
The test that was used to confirm that I have HSV2 was the IgG test. I don't have many outbreaks, I've only had two including my first. The second outbreak was very clearly herpes though. I do have Valtrex, I don't take it everyday though. That was something else I had a question about. I have read Valtrex, if taken daily, can reduce your partner's risk of contracting herpes. How long do you have to take it for it to reduce risk? I couldn't find a clear answer. The partner I'm speaking about is very new. We have discussed that I have herpes and he said he wasn't worried about it. None of the questions I'm asking you have been brought up yet, but in case they are I want to have some answers. He doesn't touch me and I don't know if its because I have herpes or if he is just uncomfortable in general. I plan on bringing it up if I continue to see him.  It can be hard for me to know how much information to give someone new. In my experience, it doesn't matter how much I know, people hear what they want to hear. I know he gets tested for more serious diseases like HIV, I don't know if he has been tested for herpes. 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
20 months ago
Valtrex, taken daily, cuts the risk of transmission by almost half, very important and significant. It takes five days of daily dosing to be fully effective.  And easy thing to do to make your partner feel less worried about transmission
Most STD screens do not include herpes so if you two want to become sexual, it would be a good idea for him to get an IgG test for herpes as 80% of those infected don't know it and he could be one.  I would suggest that you have something for him to read and take home so he can think about risks.  The Update Herpes Handbook can be downloaded for free at westoverheights.com and printed out.  Good for you for wanting to be fully informed

Terri
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20 months ago
This service you provide has been very helpful. Thank you for what you do. 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
20 months ago
You are most welcome

Terri
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