[Question #5516] Been worried for two months

20 months ago
Just over two months ago I was dating a guy who I then found out had POSSIBLY been exposed to herpes before and may have it himself. He denied having it. We had sex only once but I was still panicked so I went to my doctor who told me I definitely did not have it after doing an exam and everything. I am someone who has a great deal of anxiety so I was also googling symptoms and then trying to see if I had them. Sounds crazy I know. After my visit with her I remember on the way home that I had also given him oral sex twice during our relationship. It has been approximately two months since that as well. We did not use a barrier and I did swallow. Could I have contracted herpes this way if he had it? Does swallowing put you at a greater risk? I also have struggled with gingivitis, could I be at higher risk this way? I have been experiencing some odd chest pain almost like a bruised feeling and sometimes a sore throat on and off or a lump in the throat feeling. This may be my anxiety though as I'm not sure how long after infection my first flare up would occur if I did have something? My question is am I just overreacting and convincing myself I have something wrong with me or could I really have herpes orally/ in my throat? The past two days I have been very achey, sore throat, ears hurting, and head aches. I've had a few sore spots in my mouth on and off but they go away with just a few days and do not hurt much Also other people in my home have been sick recently..just trying to see if someone can put my mind at ease before I go make a fool of myself to my doctor again...
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
20 months ago
I think you are having significant levels of anxiety about your encounter with this person but in reality, have very little risk of having been infected.  And you don't know that he has herpes - POSSIBLY and MAY have it are not definitive. Also you only had intercourse a single time (were condoms used?) so that also greatly reduces the risk - more frequent exposures increase the likelihood of infection significantly.  Swallowing does NOT present a greater risk than simply giving oral sex, no.  The symptoms that you are describing are not consistent with herpes and should not worry you.  Going to the doctor again when you have no sores will likely NOT be helpful and I think this very very limited exposure does not really warrant herpes antibody testing plus it's too soon for an accurate result on that test now.

Terri
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20 months ago
Yes a condom was used during sex. I’m clear of genital herpes after seeing my doctor but then was worried about the oral part since I remembered about our oral sex after I left her office.  I’ve also experienced some burning in the throat as well, a few different times. But if you feel these symptoms are not lining up from herpes I could have contracted from oral/ act of swallowing that makes me feel so much better. Google is the worst ! Thank you for taking the time to answer my question. 
20 months ago
Do you feel as if the sore throat, ears hurting, body aches, and headaches are symptoms of oral herpes I could have contracted from oral sex? Or burning of throat a few times ? And did you say that swallowing wouldn’t make a difference? I’ve read some symptoms online but they aren’t very consistent in their readings. 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
20 months ago
I really don't, no.  That sounds more like you've got a little virus, but it doesn't sound like oral herpes to me.  With oral herpes from giving oral sex, which happens really infrequently, people get lesions in the throat and most often also sores on the lips.  Have you had any of that happening?

terri
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19 months ago
I haven’t had any sores on the lips but have been getting red spots on the insides of my cheeks, the pain is very mild and lots of times don’t notice unless I check my mouth. They go away within just a few days. My throat hurts a little now but this is the first of this, sometimes after eating something I notice my mouth is irritated, but doesn’t seem to really matter what it is that I eat. The red spots are flat and dark in color I would say they look like blood blisters but they’re flat to the skin. The occasional canker sore also appears or a sore spot on tongue or gums. The insides of my cheeks feel like a dull ache but idk if that’s just me overthinking it or what. I mentioned this to my doctor the other day but had nothing in my mouth at the time but she is still not concerned and told me to stop worrying about contracting oral herpes from swallowing his semen, and that I’m fine. I’m just still freaking myself out 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
19 months ago
I think your doctor is in the best possible place to evaluated your mouth and the dark spots.  But they honestly don't sound herpetic to me.  I think that very often, people who acquire oral herpes, have external lesions as well as in the mouth or throat.  You are having none of this. I hope that somehow you can work on accepting that this is extremely unlikely to be herpes.

Terri
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