Recently, in the past few weeks, I met a guy who assured me that he had been tested for everything and was all clear for stds. I have not engaged in activity (e.g. kissing, touching, oral, vaginal, heavy petting) for 10-years, so I was pretty certain, that my tests during that time were accurate, just in case, I did take on a partner. My results indicated that I was negative for everything.

Well, we have engaged in unprotected oral (giving and receiving), on several occasions, fingering and passionate kissing, and genital rubbing. We both shared our most recent results (the end of 2016 for me and beginning 2017 for him (he had more recent results but that was in paper form and he had no access to that), after we started engaging in activity, while my tests included HSV1 & HSV2; unfortunately, his only included HSV2 – he was under the impression that he was all clear because his care providers told him so, even though he paid extra expecting to be tested for everything. Apparently, this is quite common and he was only tested for HSV2.

Well, our most recent encounter was on July 5^th, I tested for everything on July 7^th, my results came back negative for HSV1 and HSV2 a few days later, he tested some days later and now knows that he has HSV1. He has had no history of symptoms – his index value of 1.22 indicates a possible recent infection.

In the past week, I have been experiencing mild burning/tingling around my vaginal opening, above my buttock (in the crack region), back of my thigh, labia, and some tingling around my lips. We attributed that to a water-based lube that we used, as well as the nurse we spoke to after his results.

As expected, I am terrified. I know there’s no information about transmission rates for HSV1, but how likely is it that I would contract HSV1 from these interactions? Also, when should I get tested again to know for sure that I am negative for HSV1?

*HSV1 testing was done using IGG for both him and I*