[Question #5705] Risk?

22 months ago
I recently received a lap dance in which the woman was nude. During the lap dance I became hard and the head of my penis came above my waistline and could feel the vagina (moist) of the dancer on my penile head with no barrier between us. After realizing about 15-30 seconds I readjusted and covered myself. Approximately 6 days later I got what seemed like a pimple near my groin and it started going away after about 4 days but is still there slightly. Do I have any real risk for anything? I’m worried due to having a pregnant wife and am refraining from sex ever since. Thank you in advance for the help.
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
22 months ago
Welcome to the forum. Thank you for your confidence in our services.

STD risk is always extremely low in absence of actual penile penetration. Although there is some risk from genital-genital appoosition without penetration, it is low even for those infections transmitted by skin-to-skin contact (syphilis, HPV, herpes) and probably zero or close to it for those transmitted through sexual fluids (gonorrhea, chlamydia, HIV). In this case, you had quite brief contact -- and you seem unsure even whether there was truly any direct contact at all.

Second and equally important, STDs that infect the skin cause initial symptoms only at the sites of direct contact. If you had caught something that could cause any sort of sore or inflammation from the exposure described, it would have appeared on the head of the penis where the exposure occurred. No newly acquired infection can cause the first problem on non-exposed skin, such as the groin. In addition, no STDs first appear as pimples. Herpes is sometimes said to be pimple-like, but herpes lesions actually are more superficial than pimples. And start with blister-like sores. Think of herpes lesions as being "on" the skin, whereas pimples start more deeply, i.e. "in" the skin.

For thoese reasons, I really do not think you are at "any real risk for anything", as you put it. And I am confident your groin pimple is just that, a pimple, and not an STD or in any way related to the lap dance you describe. I do not recommend any testing and would advise you to continue your normal sexual practices with your wife without worry.

I hope these comments are helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD
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21 months ago
Dr,

Thanks for the response. It has been 4 weeks since this happened. Approximately 3 days ago I have developed red spots on the opposite side of my penile head that are painless, don’t itch, but appear to be turning into very small bumps over the past couple of days.. Obviously this has made me concerned and wondering if I need to be based on your previous advice

Thanks
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
21 months ago
No STD causes such "red spots". I suspect you're examining yourself too closely and noting minor, insignificant anomalies of your penile skin, probably nothing new. If you believe otherwise, see a doctor. But I am confident this has nothing to do with the events described above.---
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