[Question #5849] General questions

19 months ago
Hello, I just want to say thank you for all the help you provide. It’s truly wonderful.
I have GHSV1, I had a IGG test and it was positive. I do t know when I acquired it or how to really determine outbreaks. 
My questions, since finding out I don’t want to have sex in fear of infecting my husband. 
I worry a lot about him getting it on his hands as he has rough hands due to work. If he was to get it, I ready something scary like he would have to take meds to protect him from enciphilias.( spelling not correct in that word) Is this true.
I know this is nuts, but if he was to wear gloves would he be safe then? 
I know to some this seems extreme, but I can’t deal with the thought of giving this to anyone. If I was single I would probably on date someone who was also positive. 
I know he needs to be tested but he thinks it will make my anxiety worse. 
Also, how can I determine a outbreak?
I’ve gone to 3 doctors when I’ve had really awful irritation and all of them wouldn’t swab me for hsv. They were like it’s red but it’s probably yeast. Now I am so embarrassed,I have given up finding a doctor to help me. 
I guess if I was having a outbreak and didn’t know and he used a gloved hand to have a sexual experience with me would he be safe.
I do take 500mg of valtrex daily.
Sorry for the long post 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
19 months ago
I'm confused - how do you know that your infection is genital from an IgG test?  That only tells you that you are infected, not where on your body the infection is located.  Did you have genital lesions that were swab test positive for HSV 1?
Have you or your husband ever had a cold sore on your lip or in your nose?
Before I can answer the rest of your questions, and I am eager to, I need to know how you know this is genital

Terri

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19 months ago
I have not been swabbed, I asked to be and she told me it was not needed. My husband and I not have not had and cold soars or soars in our nose. I had vaginal issues for years that would make me assume it is genital.  I’ve never seen ulcers on the outside of my vagina but I believe it is internal. I know this is just me assuming but I am hoping that if I am correct and truly believe I am, that I can keep him protected. It’s hard to be 100 percent when I can’t get a doctor to listen.  The last time I went she said it does look read and inflamed but it’s probably just irritation. I hope this clears things up.
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
19 months ago
I think you might be jumping to conclusions about the location of your infection at this point.  There is just no evidence that this is a genital infection, especially since you have only had irritation, no sores genitally.  And providers all tell you it doesn't look like herpes.  About 70% of those who are HSV 1 report no specific symptoms that would be herpes so you are certainly not alone.
Has your husband been tested as well?  If not, and you are this worried, he should be. 
How long have you been together, having sex?  And why did you get an IgG test for herpes to start with?
Terri
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19 months ago
I was having chronic vaginal issues for years, I kept going to the doctor and they would just say irritation but this was always days after it started. I started to do my own research and kind of keep track of symptoms I noticed. I went to a vaginal pain doctor explained issues, she said she had to admit what I described sounded like it but she didn’t see anything at the time to swab. I just set my mind to being cautious. For years when I have this irrational we don’t have sex. We have been together 10 years.My husband doesn’t care. It’s me who does. I guess I have scared myself by the stories I have read. He won’t get tested as he says it’d he is negative it will make my anxiety worse. He probably is right it would. I just figured it I am proactive with this I can protect him. I know I have anxiety, if I am correct I just want to try to do what I can to keep him safe. So that’s why I asked if he used gloves if it would protect his hands, crazy I know but it helps with the anxiety. 
19 months ago
Also I got tested after I started tracking the issues I was noticing and looked it up. It mentioned a few things, herpes being one. I was tested for that and had a biopsy of a spot she noticed with came back benign keratosis.  She also mention Lichen scelersous. But that biopsy came back negative. She still treated me with the steroid cream, it did not help but  made it worse. So I decided that I have  GHSV 1 with a positive IGG and have taken steps to try and protect my husband and my post a long while ago that you answered, my kiddos too, which I understand that can’t get my GH. This may seem extreme to you and others but feeling like I have control helps. So after all of this, do you think gloves is like using a condom but for his hands. This gives me a feeling of control and it helps, but I don’t want to do it if it’s not effective.
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
19 months ago
I think instead of trying to figure out if gloves for his hands would protect him from getting herpes whitlow, you should address the basic problem here which is obsessive compulsive disorder in regards to having HSV 1 infection.  You need to meet with a therapist who specializing in cognitive behavior therapy to treat this.  I hope you will do this for sake of your family and yourself.
For a moment, let's say that you have HSV 1 genital infection as you suspect (I doubt it but let's assume).  People with genital HSV 1 infection shed virus on 1.3% of days - that is 4 days in a whole year.  It does not make sense, in my mind, to act as though you are always infectious when the frequency of viral shedding is so very low!
In addition, if your IgG test result number is less than 3.0, you need a confirmatory test.  We didn't talk about that earlier but as I re-read your posts, I realize I did not ask  you this question.
I do so hope you will seek help.

Terri
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