[Question #5858] This is his Significant other please answer for my sanity

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72 months ago
First I apologize to doctors and the forum for my boyfriends constant questioning on this forum.I have came on this forum to finally put this at rest because after talking to him he thinks if I explain it and get answers he would be at ease. I was going to make another account but I saw no need to confuse you guys so I’m hoping to get a respond. 
My bf has experienced symptoms that were quite the same as an STi after two unprotected encounters with a college athlete women. The symptoms were discharge that was colored, painful urination, and left testicle pain 3-4 weeks after the encounters. It went away on its own and he proceed to get back with me and we had continuous unprotected sex for many months. He Never got tested after the encounter with the other women but we both took antibiotics both a different way many months after but we in fact did take them. He recently had a anxiety breakdown after learning about NGU. Finally went and got tested for both chlamydia/gonorrhea after awhile and the test were negative. I have never tested but have go to the gyno and they say everything looks healthy.
His concerns are we might be ping pong the infection back and forth and the test couldn’t pick it up because he thinks it clears? but he just recently tested negative so I don’t think this is possible because if it was we have had sex numerous times and he just tested negative and the symptoms never came back? He also took a ORAL swab hiv test by oraquick at 8 and 10 months I ensured him to believe it because it’s far out of the window period but he won’t listen. He thinks you guys thought he had a oraquick blood test and therefore you guys advice to accept it isn’t the same. Doctor Hook please help me out and reassure me so I can calm him down.Trust me He will no longer be able to get on this forum again. 
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72 months ago
Sorry to forget to include this. His discharge was not much it was slight and it was on his underwear like a stain. Sorry again doctors and to this forum for his behavior 
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H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
72 months ago
I'll be responding this time, but I have reviewed his/your previous questions and the replies.

Thanks for clarifying all this. I agree his symptoms several months were consistent with gonorrhea, chlamydia, or NGU. However if both of you have no symptoms now, your physical exams are normal (genital/penile exam for him, pelvic exam for you), and if you both have had recent negative tests for gonorrhea and chlamydia, you can be confident that you are no longer sharing any STD, if you ever were.  Whatever he had then apparently is gone, whether due to the antibiotics he received (for whatever reason) or because gonorrhea, chlamydia, and other STDs are naturally cleared by the immune system over time.

It is true the oral fluids HIV test is slightly less reliable than the blood tests. However, HIV is so rare in heterosexuals in the US without special risks (sex with other men, injection drug use, etc) that the chance either of you has HIV is extremely low. But if you want the security of 100% conclusive test results, you both could have an HIV blood test at this time. I'm confident the results will be negative.

I hope these comments are helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD
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72 months ago
Thank you doctor for the reply that was very clear. I do not think I’ve been tested but my annual gyno exam went well and they said everything looks well and my Pap smear came back normal. Also the antibiotics we took was azithromycin He recently tested negative and I have never had another partner other than him so I’m pretty confident I’m negative as well, do you agree? 
Also another question is when he got these symptoms I just started birth control and I think was taking amoxcillin for strep could this have irrated his penis because it messes with the natural bacteria in my vagina and caused these symptoms in him because he also had red little spots on his penis head?  
He also claims to have had pink eye around the same time these symptoms appeared maybe 2 weeks before this could this mean anything?
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Also to mention yes we have no symptoms no discharge no pain with urination or pain in testicle and has not reappeared.
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And to be clear we both took azithromycin around the same date for upper respiratory infection and didn’t see each other for a couple days while I was away before having intercourse again if that information helps 
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the reason I haven’t tested is because I have not had another partner before him so if he were infected with gonnorhea or chlymadia he would’ve gave it to me and no matter what if it didn’t clear in both of us his most recent test in May would’ve been positive? Because we have had sex over 100 times after his encounter with the other women?
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H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
72 months ago
The conjunctivitis (pink eye) indeed could be the answer to all this. An occasional cause of NGU is adenovirus. This is primarily a common cold virus, but it causes conjunctivitis and, if oral sex occurs, can cause urethritis. The combination of NGU plus conjunctivitis usually is due to adenovirus. It's uncomfortable at the time, but clears up without treatment within a week or two and is harmless; there are no complications. If you were exposed to him at the time, the worst you would have experienced is a cold, maybe with conjunctivitis yourself.

So for sure all is well. Try to stop worrying about any of this!
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72 months ago
I don’t recall getting a cold or pink eye. Also his symptoms were spread apart pink eye first then a couple weeks later urethritis if that changes anything. 
Doctor now  I am concerned... he has been tested recently and it was negative but I have not, can I trust that I don’t have anything because he tested negative after having sex with me many times? On top of that he and I had sex twice two weeks before his std test which were negative. Can you clarify the ping pong infections? This doesn’t me I give it to him he clears it naturally with his immune system and then tested negative but during that time I have it and then it happens the opposite way? Now I am concern we may be infected and passing it back and forth because we did take antibiotics in a different matter and dosage? Please clear this up!
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72 months ago
Sorry for the concern in other words and very simply if what I was asking was confusing here’s a sequence of events
September 2016 sex with other women 
September 2016 a week later sex with me
October-November 2016 somewhere between there he had pink eye then later on discharge pain with urination and testicular pain. 
May 2017 we both take antibiotics the same week in different way. He took it in a z pack regimen he took 500mg then had sex with me and proceed to take the rest after that. I took mine all at once, not  sure how long we waited for sex but It was a couple of days.
April-May 2019 we have sex alot
May 15 2019 my boyfriend test negative for both gonnorhea and Chlymadia
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72 months ago
Also I recently I had a random spark of Arthritis that lasted a week swelling him my fingers and slight in my ankles and pain in many different locations which cleared on its own and never came back. This is what caused my boyfriend to get tested thinking it was reactive arthritis or dgi? Blood test came back normal in everything but esr and crp? On top of that went to the gyno and said everything looked good. I don’t think this is std related because I feel like if it was gonnorhea his symptoms would’ve came rapidly in a couple of days, not almost a month or even more later and his discharge be a lot more am I correct? On top of that I still think if I were to have either gonorrhea or chlyamdia HIS test would’ve been positive because we had sex a week prior to that.
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72 months ago
The joint pain was on me his girlfriend not him. And went away naturally with no meds
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“  The scenario you describe in which you were infected, cleared thi infection after passing it to your regular partner and then managed to not get re-infected following multiple exposures to your regular partner is most unlikely and not something I would worry“ this is a comment doctor hook made to someone else if it helps. Maybe the arthritis could’ve reactive but maybe to some food I eat and it’s a coincidence? 
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H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
72 months ago
You two are giving different information about conjunctivitis; I'm not responsible for giving information on advice based on conflicting or inaccurate information.

All this is obviously too complex to expect resolution in a way that will satisfy you on this forum. It is true that most STDs are not consistetnly transmitted; it is common to have sex with an infected person and not acquire that STD. But I still think that is irrelevant at this point. As I said above, if you both now have no apparent STD symptoms, have been examined and nothing abnormal was seen on exam, and if you have both had negative standards STD testing (HIV, syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia), then at this point you can be sure neither of you is infected. Probably you never had any of these -- but if you did, the infection is now gone and you should stop worrying about it.

That completes this thread. Please do not start a new one about any of this. Repeated questions on the same topic are not permitted, and this is your third. Another would be deleted without reply, and without refund of the posting fee. This policy is intended to reduce the temptation to keep paying for quesitons to hear the same answers. Also, repeated questions and replies often fuel anxiety rather than resolving it. Finally, such questions have low educational value for other users, one of the goals of the forum. Thank you for your understanding and best wishes to you both.
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Doctor you miss understood he had pink eye and you said maybe I would’ve have had pink eye if anything I replied saying I didn’t have pink eye. All I wanted to be clear is that if he was tested recently and is negative should I be confident I don’t have anything either because we have had sex so many times if i as his girlfriend had something he would’ve been positive? 
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H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
72 months ago
That's exactly what I have said, repeated more than once. Re-read my replies above. I am confident neither of you has any STD at this point. Time to move on without worry. If you still have concerns, please carefully re-read all my replies above and in previous threads. Do your best to accept the reasoned, expert, science based advice you have had.

That completes this thread. Do not post another about any of this. It would be deleted without reply and without refund of the posting fee.
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72 months ago
Just wanted that to be clear you will not hear from my boyfriend on this forum again. If you just hear me out on the sequence of events maybe it will give you a better understanding this is his girlfriend speaking so I don’t know if this is throwing you off 
Around September 10  2016 had sex with other women 
September 14 2016 had sex with me his girlfriend
Somewhere in October/November 2016 he had symptoms of discharge pain in testicle and urination (boyfriend claims to have pink eye before the genital symptoms started but thinks it was from wearing his contacts a lot and removing them without washing his hands) never got tested and gentil symptoms disappeared in a week 
May 14 2017 we both take the antibiotics listed above for another reason non std no sex for 3-4 days
After that 2 years on intercourse which leads to The present  now, he has no symptoms and I have no discharge but I had arthritis for a week mention above so my bf went and got tested and test results were negative. 

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Doctor I have no tested. He has only tested and it’s been negative. So you are saying we don’t have anything and move on? Thank you for the service I apologize for the stress and non stop questioning. I have changed the password and we neither will be back on the forum 
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H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
72 months ago
You said you had a normal gyn exam. That often includes STD testing. If it did not, and you would like additional reassurance, speak with your doctor about being tested for gonorrhea, chlamydia (vaginal swab or urine) and having blood tests for syphilis and HIV. I predict these will be negative.

Arthritis is not an STD symptom.

Thanks for your understanding about repeat postings. Best wishes.
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