I was diagnosed with herpes over 30 years ago.  I believe it was a swab test, but not certain.  I don’t think I was ever told if it was HSV1 or HSV2. I’ve been in touch with my doctor to see if they can send me those records.  I probably need to be retested to determine which type I have. To be quite honest, I never even knew there were different types until my recent research and by reading Terri Warren’s excellent book.  I also have cold sores.

I was married for a very long time and we both had herpes so it was never an issue.  Since I am now divorced and recently started dating, I became sexually active with my boyfriend a couple months back.   I gave him oral sex twice and he gave me oral sex once.  We never had intercourse.  We did a lot of deep kissing and he fingered me a couple times and then placed his fingers in his mouth.  At the time of these sexual encounters, I was not having an outbreak.  I usually only have an outbreak two-three times per year and treat them as they occur with zovirax cream and Valacyclovir (500 mg).  They only last 2-4 days per episode.

After reading the book, I understand that there is always a chance I could infect someone however, I read that the longer you have herpes there is less shedding and the risk factor is lower.  He did have a blood test two-three weeks after our last encounter and the results were negative for any type of STD or STI.  What is the likelihood of him being infected?