1.  That depends upon how you define "live on a glass surface".  Live, like be able to recover some virus or live, like enough virus to infect another person.  They are different questions, but  essentially, we do not believe that the virus can live long at all on a glass surface.  If someone drank from a glass when they have an obviously oozing cold sore and someone else drank within seconds from that same glass, there might be a very tiny risk.

2.  Rubbing alcohol is an good sterilizer, not a perfect one but a very good one. But add salt for a scrubber and that likely increases the efficacy as well.

3.  Your cleaning process is exemplary, and WAY  more thorough than any restaurant process I have ever heard of.  In fact, I work as a volunteer at a Meals on Wheels kitchen and their dishwashing process is no where near this complete.  The herpes virus is surrounded by a lipid layer, and the function of soap and cleaning products is essentially to destroy that lipid layer.  That why we tell people if you touch an active sore, just wash your hands with soap and water to a round of "happy birthday"and you have no worries.  But you go way beyond that.  You run it through an alcohol wipe with salt AND a dishwasher?  My goodness!  You ARE being very careful.  I cannot imagine for a moment that herpes virus could live through even the beginning of this cleaning process.  You are doing an excellent job and should have zero worries about someone contracting herpes from one of your glasses if this is your process.  I don't fully understand the nuances of why you are asking me this question but if someone is claiming that they acquired HSV by using one of your glasses, they are mistaken.   I would bet my 35 year herpes expert career on it.

Terri