[Question #6409] Newly diagnosed hsv2

Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
15 months ago
I don't see a question here?  Did you make an error?

Terri
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15 months ago
Hi Teri thanks for responding I’ve been having some issues with posting my questions and quite frankly I’m getting frustrated.  I was diagnosed about a week now for hsv 2 . Back in September 2018 I did a full panel of std test it came back positive for hsv 1 Nd I was told negative for hsv2 . Immediately I went into a state of panic went to several doctors Nd was told it wasn’t a big deal. Hence I moved on with my life . Never to this day have I ever had a cold sore. 
15 months ago
I’ve Been in a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend for about 1 year . I was diagnosed thru hsv culture which came back positive for hsv 2. My boyfriend is yet to get his results. He has no symptoms.  We are both worried about how this will affect our sex life and future plans for a baby . 
15 months ago
Questions 
Is it safe for us to do oral sex? Or should we eliminate this from our sex  life ? Considering I’m the infected one can I perform oral sex on hm without infecting hm if he doesn’t have it? 
Will he get it in his mouth if he goes down on me ? 
 If he is positive is it ok to have sex without condoms? And if he is not ; will the antivirals meds daily reduce chances of hm being infected  with out the use of condoms? 
Also seeing I had hsv1 is it possible that I could I have given it to hm genitally  through oral sex and he somehow infected me genitally ? 
If I’ve only been with him I don’t understand where this came from . I’m confused he claims he has not been unfaithful 
15 months ago
It’s Been almost two weeks , my blister from my primary breakout has disappeared within 4 days of being on valtrex.  For a primary breakout I must say it was rather mild . I’m still not convinced I have this virus , I’m confused . My world is shattered ! Please help 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
15 months ago
I don't know what ND is but I'm gong to try to answer your questions without knowing that.  The important thing here is for your partner to test to see if he is positive also.  If he is, then there is no concern about transmission.  If he is positive, you can have sex without condoms, yes.  If he is negative, that means either that he just got herpes from someone else and has not yet made antibody OR that you have had this for a longer time.  I'm not implying anything about his behavior - please don't misunderstand.  I'm just giving you thoughts about testing.  Since he says he has not had other partners, if that is correct, then you've either had this for a long time or your partner is infected and didn't know it.  Both are certainly possible.  But if you had a positive swab test for HSV 2, you should believe that you have HSV 2. 

Terri
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15 months ago
Hi Terri , 
Thank you again for your response. ‘Nd ‘ is simply (And) I apologize.  I understand re diagnosis; thank you .  Future plans for a baby is still possible tho right? I’ve read somewhere that 99% of women who are infected have healthy babies, is this true? 
Considering if my partner comes back negative,  will oral sex be a risk for him  whether receiving or giving the act? 
Also how contagious am I? Not having any current open sores , is it possible to transfer the virus to another part of my body by self contamination? Hence If I put my hand down there and just happen to touch another part on my body say rubbing my eyes before washing my hand throughly? 

Just trying to understand. Thank you 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
15 months ago
Yes, definitely, plans for a baby are fine!  I would say the number is higher than 99%.
We don't know where your infection is, if you are positive, so I can't say how safe or not safe oral sex is.  If you have HSV 1 orally, you are more infectious than if this is genital.
It is highly unlikely that you would transfer infection from one part of your body to another after you have been infected for about 3-4 months.

Terri

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