[Question #6583] Did I give my kid herpes!?!?

13 months ago
I am a total mess! I had an encounter with a man. I gave oral for 4-5 seconds without a rubber. And then some more with a rubber. He ejaculated mostly on his chest; some hit my lips. I wiped it off and washed immediately. Didn’t get in my mouth. The next day my kid kissed me goodbye on the lips. Three days later he developed flu like symptoms and has a cold sore. The man I met said he is clean and never had a sore. He had no visible sores that day. I’ve asked about testing and he hasn’t responded yet. So my questions: If I got herpes that day, in that way, could I have passed it on the very next day? If he has HSV1 would that be easier to transmit to my mouth than HSV2? Would one small peck give it to my child? I’ve given oral to my wife since then as well. I’m so scared! What are the chances of all of this happening in this way?
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
13 months ago
Four or five seconds of unprotected oral sex present almost zero risk of you acquiring HSV.  Plus to transmit it to your child, via the kind of kiss a dad would give, is virtually impossible the next day.  And the same is true for the risk of giving this to your wife. 
Has your child ever in his life had a cold sore previously? Have you or your wife?

Terri
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13 months ago
My child has never had a cold sore up to now that we can remember. I, nor my wife do not remember ever having any either. The guy I met up with answered and said he has never had any sores or symptoms on his lips or genital area. I understand this doesn’t mean he doesn’t have it. I guess I am just flooded with guilt that I could have done something indirectly to cause my child harm. We have an appointment for him today to see if they will test the sore. Is there anything else it could be? It was crusted yellow and now it’s spreading a little as he won’t leave it alone.  Could he have got this elsewhere coincidentally? I was hoping my contact less than 24 hours before kissing him goodbye was too soon to be contagious. 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
13 months ago
It could be something called impetigo - very common in children.  Your doc will know.
I can reassure you that your experience less than 24 hours prior did NOT give your child a cold sore.  If it is  cold sore, he could have gotten it from another child or adult. 

Terri
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13 months ago
Thank you so much for your replies! The nurse said it looked like a cold sore. She didn't seem to want to test the sore. Should I push that issues? She prescribed some cream for it. She added it could be a sore not caused by herpes but just a virus? Is this possible? It seemed to spread as he kept wiping and itching it. Is this common with herpes sores? It is starting to clear up finally now. He has had it for about a week.  He has siblings, should we talk to him about what it could be and how contagious the sores are? Also, I am about 10-11 days post incident. I am getting a sore throat, almost like a tightening inside my throat. Could i be getting some sort of esophagus herpes? I don’t see any sores in my mouth. Or on my lips. I know you said it was unlikely from 4-5 seconds of unprotected oral. How unlikely are we talking? I’m sorry to ask again, I just can’t quite shake this feeling as much as I try and your reply helped the first time. But the sore throat added to my anxiety again. 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
13 months ago
I personally think that was an error on the nurse's part.  Now you don't know if it was a cold sore or not.  Herpes would likely spread on it's own a little bit - very hard to say but I'm glad it's getting better.  He should just avoid direct  mouth to mouth contact with his siblings when a sore is present.  Now that you are 10 days out, I think your period of worry should be over. The symptoms that you describe are not normally associated with herpes.  I would say with 4-5 seconds of oral sex, the risk is maybe 1 in 500,000?

Terri
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