[Question #6700] STI Risk From Asian Spa

14 months ago

I've been to an Asian Massage Spa several times.  The only things that happened on any of the times I went were:
1) hand job
2) fingering
3) breast relief
4) sucking the nipples of a massause
5) blowing on the tip of the penis - no insertion
6) closed mouth kissing only a few times


At no time though was there sex or blow job.  Best of my knowledge there have been no instances of exchanging body fluids.   

After reading on the scary web, I am now worried of a possible STI.  I have no symptoms, but I am still worried.  

I am done doing these things as the worry is too much as I am married.  

What are my risk for catching any STIs?

Thanks

Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
14 months ago

Welcome to the Forum and thanks for your question.  I appreciate the fact that you understand that the web is "scary".  Actually, it's even worse than that.  It is full of misinformation, most of which I suppose is probably unintentional but the fact is that much of what is seen prominently there is taken out of context, out of date, misinterpretation or just plain wrong and there  is no good way to determine what it accurate and what is not.  It will mislead you more often than not. 

I also want to congratulate you in your pursuit of safe sexual activities.  There is absolutely no risk for STIs, including HIV, from the non-penetrative sexual activities, specifically, no risk from receipt (or participation in) masturbation, fingering (this is masturbation), breast relief, sucking on a partner's nipples, blowing on the penis or kissing (open or closed mouth).  Thus there is no need for concern and no need for testing related to the activities that you describe.

I hope that this information will be helpful to you.  You are in the clear from all of the activities you describe.  EWH

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14 months ago
Outside of the scary web, what really got me worried is when my wife got a yeast infection.   She used monistat 1 and it seem to almost get rid of it, but seemed to come back.  She took a fluconazole pill last night that she had, so hope that works.  monistat almost got rid of it though.   She has not been tested for one though.

So when this happened, I jumped to the worst case scenario of a possible STI, causing all this worry.   She's had them before and seems to think that that is what it is.

Understanding that a yeast infection is different, would monistat relieve possible symptoms of an STI but obviously not get rid of it.

Am I overthinking all of this?
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
14 months ago
I do think you are overthinking this. Guilt over dalliances such as those you describe can lead to misplaced concern.  Monistat is not 100% effective for yeast infection and no, you would not expect monistat to resolve the signs and symptoms of an STI. 
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14 months ago
So it is purely coincidental?   And yes, my guilt is at an all time high.   Feel like I want to become a celibate monk from now on.   

So there is no reason to worry or have concerns?

Last, I do really appreciate what you do.   The help you provide people is incredible.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
14 months ago

Yes, please remember that coincidence becomes more common when anxiety heightens you level of awareness.  No reason for concern- zero- nada. 


As you know, we provide up to three responses for each question. This will be my final response and the thread will be closed shortly.  Please don't worry.  EWH

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