49 yo male had incident about a year and a half ago, maybe 2 years. Massage place, woman jumped on top of me after massage grinding on me genital to genital asking if I want anything else, which i said no thanks. 9 months or so later developed prostatitis took doxycycline  1 a day for 20 days. Eventually improved but still some issues.  

Welcome to the Forum and thanks for your question.  I'll be pleased to comment.  Apparently there was no penetration from the encounter you describe. If that is the case, there is no risk for STI or any sort.  Chlamydia and similar STIs are transmitted only through penetrative sexual encounters. 

I suspect that both your prostatitis and your wife's current problems are coincidental and NOT related in any way to the encounter you describe.  Mis-perceptions about prostatitis being an STI are widespread and incorrect.  Prostatitis is NOT a complication of STI.  Similarly, while chlamydia can mimic the signs and symptoms of a UTI, most UTIs present in the manner you describe and there is nothing you have mentioned which raises any concerns that you might have given your wife chlamydia which is now mimicking an UTI.  I would not be the least bit worried that you had an STI which you passed to your wife as a result of the dalliance that you describe.  I see no need for testing at this time.

I hope that this information is helpful.  EWH

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Thanks for the fast reply.  To satisfy my curiosity and solidify my desision to open this can of worms with my wife, is it possible for chlamydia so be asymptomatic for well over a year and a half and then start showing symtoms? When I look reputable health sites like mayo, I see sti come up as a common reason for UTI like symtoms with no nitrites, only leukocytes. And this is bad, she cant go 10 minutes with out peeing and lower ab pain.

Her symptoms really do not sound typical of chlamydia but indeed, chlamydial infections can be asymptomatic.  They also tend to "clear" (self-cure) over time but after a year and a half, most people would have cured (no precise numbers available) I think it is VERY unlikely that her current symptoms are due to chlamydia.  Don't misinterpret what you see on the internet.  EWH
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