[Question #7018] Risk or No Risk

10 months ago
Hello I need to know if my online information is correct that I’ve read I’ll start off by saying I’ve never had a STD besides HSV1 since I was a kid.  I’m 31 years old and married with 2 small children. My question is i received a handjob with my underwear on and the female had her pants off underwear on she was a escort.  Was their any risk in contracting any kind of STD/HIV reason for me being here is for the last week and a half I’ve gotten super fatigue to were I can’t get out of bed and numbness in my limbs and this is 3 weeks after seeing that female I repeat I’ve never had any STD’s and am in a monogamous relationship ive made a mistake and want to know what’s going on or if it has anything to do with what happened I’m honestly afraid to get tested and from what I’ve read online what happened doesn’t seem to be a risk for anything but I have these severe symptoms of fatigue and numbness any input would be greatly appreciated THANKS
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
10 months ago
Welcome to our forum and thanks for your question. I’m glad you came to us. Unfortunately, while the Internet provides a fabulous means of communication, it is a most unreliable place to look for medical guidance. Much of what is seen on the Internet related to STIs and HIV is incorrect -sometimes because it is out of date, sometimes because it is taken out of context, and sometimes because it is just plain wrong.  

Masturbation is safe sex. That is true whether you we are talking about personal masturbation or mutual masturbation in which a partner is performing the act on another person. This is the case whether or not clothing is on. Non-penetrative, sexual contact such as masturbation is safe sex. This is even true if in the course of events participants get each other’s genitals secretions on one another.  From what you described, I see no reason for concern and no reason for testing.

I hope this information is helpful to you. If any part of this reply is unclear or there are additional questions please feel free to use your up to two follow up questions for clarification. EWH
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10 months ago
Thanks for the reply I wouldn’t be worried and it’s not something I’ve done or do on a regular basis and yes u are correct their was no fluids of any type only reason I’m worried is cause when I googled my symptoms STD’s and HIV popped up and I landed in that time frame as we speak I feel like I need to sleep that’s how bad it’s been I did speak with my doctor and he ordered lots of blood work mostly for diabetes thyroid etc nothing to do with this I’m glad to have a response from you and appreciate your assurance but the only thing I can’t get over are the symptoms I don’t even feel sick just fatigue sleepy muscle aches and numbness in the limbs I understood what you said but for clarification this wouldn’t have anything to do with that act?
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
10 months ago
Fatigue, sleeplessness, and numbness in the extremities are not signs of any acute or recently acquired STI. These are non-specific findings which could have multiple causes and which it sounds like your doctor is evaluating you for.  I should add that it’s human nature for guilt or anxiety to amplified any signs or symptoms and to lead individuals to note normal sensations which they would otherwise overlook. Either or both of these may be contributing to your current issues. Nothing you have said, either in terms of the encounter, or you were signs and symptoms, raise any concern whatsoever for STI or HIV.  Still no need for testing or concern. EWH---
10 months ago
Thank you sir glad to be able to set the record straight with someone of knowledge over what you see on the internet thank you for your time and god bless 
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
10 months ago
Glad you found my comments helpful.  Take care.  EWH ---