[Question #7024] Lap dance at Tampa strip club

9 months ago
Good afternoon Dr Handsfield.  I had asked you a question in reference to a strip club experience last summer and really erased my anxiety (muc.... and got married a week later after the bachelor party experience.  I do t know if you can see my previous question.

Anyway, I’m in Florida and went to another strip club in the area of Tampa.  It was a full nude club and was with friends.   I really did not want a lap dance whatsoever.  But of course it happened.  It lasted about 5 mins 1 song.  Here is my concern.   I was fully clothed with thin shorts on (cotton and boxers underneath them). The stripper focused primarily on my tip of my Erect penis as she was rubbing it nice for about a minute or 2.  I did pre cum.    What I’m extremely nervous about is any sexual fluid on her part seeping through my clothing and into my ureter and contracting HIV.  my shorts did have some wetness from her.  I have read on here that it’s basically impossible.  I’m also worried about any STD in general.   I’m having anxiety attacks and it’s almost impossible for me to focus.  My conscious mind says this is ridiculous but I keep panicking.   Same thing like last summer.  I was hoping that I can receive the same reassurance as I did last summer and CONTINUE sexual relations with my wife.  I have generalized health anxiety.  I just had a physical a month ago and my doctor says I was great and blood work was perfect, except high cholesterol (working on it).  

I did not touch her vagina nor did she touch my penis.  She was touching herself and her boobs which I did touch.   

As like last time I greatly appreciate the time you take for people and I’m hoping you can rid my anxiety once again. I’m not myself and feel like I’m going to have to keep checking my temperature starting in a week for 3 weeks for ARS.  That’s how scared I am.    I hope you can tell me I do t need to and continue my life with my wife.  Sorry for the long drawn out story.  I feel guilty as well but it was just a lap dance.  
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
9 months ago
Welcome back to the forum. I can't see your previous thread -- you're apparently using a different username and email addess. I'll be happy to take a look if you con provide the question number. (We discourage duplicate accounts, but sometimes can't be helped, e.g. if email address changes.) If you'd like me to take a look perhaps you can provide the question number.

This was a high risk event -- maybe very high risk -- for some infections, in particular COVID-19 and other respiratory viruses. But zero risk for STDs and HIV. The bacteria and viruses that cause them are filtered out by cloth It is unlikely gential fluids were present in sufficient amount to soak through, there would be no risk even if that happened. In other words, listen to your "conscioius mind" and not your emotions; I wouldn't say your concerns are "ridiculous", but there truly is no risk. There also is never any STD risk from contact with breasts or other non-genital skin areas. Taking your temperature was a good idea for about 2 weeks because of COVID-19 risk, but not for HIV. You should be continuing unprotected sex with your wife without worry. Your guilt and health anxiety are the only problems here -- not HIV or STDs.

My main advice is that you need to cease any such experiences until COVID-19 is in control -- which in Florida is a long way off. That's an infinitely greater risk to both you and your wife than any STD consequence of visiting strip clubs. Just don't do it for the next several months, maybe a year or more.

I hope these comments are helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD

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9 months ago
My previous question number was #5884.    It’s funny you say you can’t see it because neither can I but I saved a picture of it in my phone.  I have not created a new account at all.  Take a look if you can.

I greatly appreciate you Answering so quickly. We wore masks, the whole time, which who knows if it works but I agree it was a dumb idea.    

So I have no risks or need to be concerned about any stds in reference to this lap dance.   And I can continue a normal sex life with my wife ASAP.   I understand what your saying about covid. 
9 months ago
My biggest concern is HIV but now I’m concerned about covid greatly.  They did check our temperatures and everyone had to wear a mask.    I’m 36.  With that said the assurance that I did not an cannot contract HIV From this if that’s the case I guess is all you can assure me at this time?   And that will calm my nerves drastically if true 
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
9 months ago
You're re-asking questions already answered. Read my reply about about HIV risk and sex with your wife. I haven't changed my mind since yesterday. Nobody in the world ever caught HIV from an event like this and you won't be the first.

Masking reduces risk of coronavirus transmission, but even with masks, this close contact allows for a lot of breathing each other's air. You should consider strip clubs entirely off limits, unless such a place has zero person-to-person contact between dancers/strippers and observers, ideally with plastic barriers separating them.
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9 months ago
I understand.  I didn’t mean to question you.  I genuinely appreciate your time DR. And thank you for the reply. 
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
9 months ago
Thanks for the thanks. I'm glad to have helped. That completes the two follow-up exchanges included with each question and so ends this thread. Best wishes and stay safe.---