[Question #7423] Oral Hpv Disclosure
4 months ago
I grew up in a religious environment where any sexual activity before marriage is frowned upon
I have been married since 2016. In 2008, 8 years before I got married I had unprotected fellatio for about a minute or two. This has been the only encounter I have had in my life besides my wife. I only had sexual contact with my wife when we were married.
A few years after the encounter I went for an Hiv test (I live in a country with a very high Hiv population) I also went for a Syphilis test, both were negative.
At the time a spoke to a mental health professional (I was a bit traumatized by the encounter due to my restrictive upbringing) who said I don't need to tell my future wife.
My wife had no sexual contact prior to me.
I have not told her about this encounter.
My wife goes to regular gynecology check ups
And has had yearly pap tests, last week the Gynecologist took a hpv test.
We have not got the results yet.
The Dr also made her go for a syphilis test and some other tests as we are going to try to fall pregnant. The Dr told my wife that one’s religious background means nothing in terms of testing, I think she means that there is frequent non-monogamy in any culture or community.
I am wondering if I need to tell my wife about the encounter.
Is the risk of hpv high enough to need to tell my wife?
Is it possible to put the risk of my wife now having hpv from the encounter into numbers?
Are there any other std’s I need to be concerned about?
Thanks so much for your help.
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
4 months ago