[Question #7518] Odds of herpes or STD’s

4 months ago

I went out on a date with a women I met on an app yesterday Dec/ 30/ 2020. We proceeded to drive around until we got to a secluded spot where she proceed to give me oral for about 7 minutes and I also gave her oral for about ten minutes.

Before this I couldn’t really get hard cus I was uncomfortable and I was dry masturbating to get erect. After my oral She proceeded to ride me for what maybe was like 5 mins and I orgasmed into a napkin. All of the sex was unprotected. 

After all of this I started to talk with her more and she proceeds to tell me that she slept with Someone the month before and that she has a husband. I started to freak out because she said she doesent sleep around on the app. I also feel bad contributing to this as well.

I asked her if she has ever had any sort of bump or lesion in the vaginal or has she has herpes. she said it has never happened. She also didn’t really know what herpes was until I brought it up so her std knowledge is probably not the best. She is also Dominican and can’t understand English that well. 

I am honestly freaking out here. I really don’t like to hook up because of shit like this and I am afraid of her sexual history affecting me. From my understanding she was with her husband for ten years and she slept with a guy a month before me and maybe even a previous guy before that. I don’t know her sexual history to well but she seems to be sleeping around more lately. 

On top of that my wife who separated from me wants to get back together and I am afraid I might have caught something from this sexual experience. 

What are my odds of contacting herpes both or either hsv-1 and 2 from this encounter along with any other serious std’s? 

When will it be safe to have sex again with my wife?

Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
2 months ago
This post was made 2 months ago so I don't understand how this just showed up.  But I'll go ahead and answer.  So I can't give you an exact percentage of acquiring HSV 1 or HSV 2 from this encounter, but I would GUESS it is well under 1%.  Have you ever in your life had a cold sore on your lip or in your nose?  If the answer is yes, then you already have HSV 1 so you would have almost no chance of getting this in a new location (penis).  Update me - any symptoms?