Hi,

Around 2 years and 3 months ago, I (male) had about 20/30 minutes of unprotected vaginal and oral sex and 10 seconds of anal sex with just the tip with a female. The next day she informed me that she had found out from a regular partner of hers that he had chlamydia, and so she likely did as well. She got a test done a few days later which confirmed she had chlamydia.

I got tested via a urine test 2 days after the sex, which was probably too early but I was panicking as I had a regular partner (female) of 3 years and it’s the only time I’ve done something like this. That test came back negative for chlamydia and gonorrhea.

I went to the clinic a couple days after that who gave me some amoxicillin, and I took that straight away for the next week. I was planning on avoiding sex with my regular partner for the week, however after 4.5 days of taking the amoxicillin she gave me some oral sex. It was brief, maybe 1 minute total, and I did not ejaculate in her mouth.

A week and a half after the initial sex, I went to another clinic to get another test done, again, due to being anxious. He said he saw some irritation in the urethra, told me to stop checking my penis myself (which I had been doing a lot), did a swab and urine test but found no STIs. He gave me Doxycycline which I took for a week.

Fast forward to 2 months ago. Same partner. I started needing to pee frequently, it burning when I did, and sometimes a sharp pain in the tube between my testicles and anus. I also had a feeling of urine being stuck in the tip of my penis, especially in the morning. No discharge on initial sight, but I could milk some to the top so it was visible in the pee hole (maybe a see/through white colour but hard to tell as there was not much of it).

I went to the doctors, who gave me nitrofurantoin, did a urine test for signs of UTI, which came back negative.

I then thought about how I’d been having testicle pain for about 6 months. Nothing too bad, only at night. I was getting back ache that would move to my groin and testicles when I lay down, and I assumed it was the result of a bad mattress as it wasn’t a big pain, more of a niggling ache that went when I readjusted. I also thought how I had been getting a cold penis sometimes after urinating, and my foreskin would feel a bit tingly/cold.

I was still getting symptoms after the nitrofurantoin so I then did an STI test a week later which was delivered in the post (due to Covid). The weird thing for this test was that instead of peeing straight into the tube, it asked you to pee into a bag and then pour the urine into the tube. I was only supposed to fill the bag up half way, but I filled it to the top, and then poured it into the tube.

After the test I started taking some doxycycline that I got from a pharmacy (again, stupid) and my symptoms died down. Then after a couple weeks, I had a few beers one night and the next day it was painful to pee again (but not as much frequency). At this point I was inspecting my penis nearly constantly, the tip always seemed a bit moist (with a light shined on it.)

A month back my partner started complaining of some upper flank pain just under the back of her rib cage. Only when she rotated her back, not painful enough to stop her doing exercise.

More recently she has been having pain when urinating, described it as the pain you get when you hold in a pee for too long, with pain in the bladder/pelvic area upon voiding and also cloudy/smelly urine.

Subsequently, I’ve done a full STI test with the lesser known STIs, all negative. An ultrasound on my testicles as the pain felt like it got worse. Nothing found. I’ve done a prostate exam, which the doctor said it could be prostatitis and prescribed me ciprofloxacin which I am taking now, but it felt like he was going off what I was saying rather than the exam itself.

My symptoms have died down since, apart from the anxiety and lack of sleep of course.

I’ve encouraged my partner to get tested but the doctors are understandably slow to see people due to Covid and they don’t follow up on consultations and she isn’t following up either.

My question is how likely is it that I had an STI originally, gave it to my partner via oral  after 4.5 days of antibiotics and we both now have it?

Why are we both experiencing symptoms now at the same time?

Did I mess up the postal STI test by peeing too much in the bag before pouring into the tube or by having already taken nitrofurantoin?

We used a new lube a couple months ago, never used lube before, not spermicide based, but that also wouldn’t account for the months before that when I had testicle ache and tingling pee hole.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

2 years ago, I (male) had unprotected vaginal/oral sex & 10 seconds of anal sex with female. She had chlamydia.

2 days after: I tested for chlamydia/gonorrhoea - negative

4 days after - took amoxicillin

4.5 days after the amoxicillin received 1 minute of oral from regular partner- did not ejaculate in her mouth

Week and half after initial sex - took another test  (swab and urine) for chlamydia/gonorrhoea - negative. Doctor prescribed Doxycycline.

Since roughly 6 months before today - I’ve been having mild testicle ache for about 6 months at night in bed. Both testicles, lower back/groin ache. Thought it was bad mattress. Had also been getting a cold penis sometimes after urinating, and my foreskin would feel a bit tingly/cold.

2 months ago from today. 

I started needing to pee frequently, burning when I did, sometimes a sharp pain in the tube between my testicles and anus. Also a feeling of urine being stuck in the tip of my penis, especially in the morning. No discharge on initial sight, but I could milk some to the top so it was visible in the pee hole (maybe a see/through white colour but hard to tell as there was not much of it).

Doctor guessed UTI and prescribed nitrofurantoin. UTI test negative.

Still symptoms. Did STI test for chlamydia/gonorrhoea. Wasn’t initial catch of urine as had to pee in a bag and pour into tube. Negative result.

Took doxycycline, symptoms died down. Drank alcohol, symptoms flared back up.

A month back my partner started complaining of some upper flank pain just under the back of her rib cage. Only when she rotated her back, not painful enough to stop her doing exercise.

More recently she has been having pain when urinating, described it as the pain you get when you hold in a pee for too long, with pain in the bladder/pelvic area upon voiding and also cloudy/smelly urine.

I’ve now done full STI test, ultrasound on testicles, all negative.

Did prostate exam, doctor prescribed me ciprofloxacin for possible prostatitis. Symptoms have died down but flare up again.

Partner has done home UTI dip test. Negative.

How likely is it that I had an STI originally, gave it to my partner via oral  after 4.5 days of antibiotics and we both now are showing urinary symptoms 2 years later?

Did I mess up the STI test by peeing too much in the bag before pouring into the tube or by having already taken nitrofurantoin?