Specifically:

1.  There is no risk for HIV or other STI’s from French kissing and exchange of saliva. This is true even if the person you were kissing has recently had a sex toy which had been previously used on her genitals in her mouth.  In general, HIV and STDs are virtually never transmitted through indirect exposure in which genital secretions are transmitted on someone’s hands or an inanimate object to another location where exposure than takes place.

2.  Similarly and for the same reasons I stated above, if you happened to get your partner’s genital secretions on your hand at the time you handled the sex toy or changed the condoms, there would be no risk of acquiring HIV or STI’s should your hand have then immediately touched your genitals or other parts of your body.  Please remember that even mutual masturbation in which it is typical for partners to get each other’s genital secretions on one another represents a no risk activity for acquisition of HIV or other STI’s.

3.  Any blood or other material which got under your fingernails while your fingers were in her mouth would not put you at risk for acquisition of HIV or other STI’s.

Thus, each of the activities you described represents a no risk event in terms of your own risk for HIV and STDs. There is no medical or scientific reason for testing related to any of the activities you described. I hope this information is helpful to you. EWH

She told me she always refuses anal, cum in her mouth and unprotected vaginal. If she dors not lie, the only she does not protect with other Clients are fellation. She works in rather high-end districts.

3. Last, beacuse I feel my mind will eventually break. Should I elect and manage to take a HIV RNA PCR test (not easy to accessible in France for screening) to relieve the pressure at the soonest before the 4/6 weeks Elisa:
- what is the best time frame (earliest / optimal / latest for HIV RNA PCR?
- what is the eliability of such test (false négative) and the number of false-positive when performed at optimal nunbers of days after exposure?

Many many thanks to you.

1.  You can approach the fact that your HIV test prior to the encounter was negative as being good news or bad news. I would encourage you to consider it good news. Your partner has gotten this far and Was not infected within three months of the time of your encounter. The probability that she had been infected in that interval, unless her behavior had changed markedly, was very, very low. That said, even if she was in the acute phase of infection with very high viral loads the encounters you described would still be virtually no risk events.

2.  This comment/question is a unanswerable “what if”, anxiety-driven question. Obviously I cannot comment as to her previous behaviors, her partner numbers, etc. The fact that she works with relatively high end clients however makes the likelihood that she had any STI including HIV relatively low, as does the details she provided you on what practices she would and wouldn’t do.

3.  As I believe you already know, I do not believe the testing is necessary. If you must test, most scientists believe that HIV RNA PCR tests are conclusively positive by 11 to 12 days following an exposure. Despite that, most scientists would also recommend follow up testing with a fourth generation combination HIV antigen/antibody test at six weeks following an exposure of concern. I would add that well over 99% of persons who have been recently infected have positive fourth generation tests by the time four weeks following the exposure has passed.

I hope this additional information is helpful to you. I believe you are worrying more than you need to. EWH

I won't take more of your time.

I let you close this thread. If needed, only if and after I test, would post in a different one, should something go wrong or unclear with tests outcomes.

In between, i am not going to further cross read other posts and and keep my mind free of concern.

All my kindest regards.

Just to let you know my HIV 4th gen Ag/Ab test at 26 days came back negative. I still suffer from periodic anxiety and wait for the 6-week test.

I guess waiting for those tests raise my anxiety and might not be the option. But still, wanted to share those preliminary results. 

Kindest regards.

This completes this thread.  Take care. EWH