[Question #8090] Worried
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49 months ago
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Hello Dr , I will start my question but before that I just would like to say thank you for all of what you are doing to help people like me. And sorry if my question was to long.I am a male 50 years old married and I have a wonderful wife and life, before like a week ago I visited a massage club because i like to do massage sometimes just to relax and I don’t have a specific massage centre so every time i go to different places, , but this time there is something new did happened with me, I did ask before the massage if I have to keep my underwear or not and she said you don’t need it, I did take my clothes off and I was naked, she started the massage for my back then when she finished she offers me a hand job I don’t know why at that time I agree so she started the hand job using her hand and an oil until I ejected I mean ( come) the room was dark I didn’t see clearly what she did use in here hand but I guess it was the same massage oil she didn’t touched my anus or i could feel it if she did, she was full dressed and I did not touch here virg or her breast and I didn’t kiss her nothing of this happened it was only handjop, after she finished I was scared i I had strange feeling not happy of what happened, she asked me to take shower but I didn’t at that time I just wanted to leave the place I didn’t wash my pins until I went back home, suddenly I started to think about it and keep asking my self what could happen to me out of this I don’t know if she had HIV or if she had a cut in her hand or if she didn’t wash her hand after she did the same with other I didn’t know if I had scratches or anything on my pins what about the oil I get inside my pins from the head what About HIV or other STD , then suddenly I keep telling my self I didn’t had sex with her No penetration no risk, what is your opinion DR please do I have to worry or just forget it? I am married until now I didn’t come near my wife, as I said before I was reading the old post about the same cases
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49 months ago
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Just one more thing I did not use condom for that and this is what I am worried about to , please Dr do I have to worry about this or I have just to forget it and move on my life.
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Edward W. Hook M.D.
49 months ago
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Welcome to our forum and thanks for your question. I’ll be glad to answer.
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The exposure you described was a no risk event with no risk for acquisition of HIV or other classical STI’s. This is true even if she happened to have genital secretions on her hands at the time she massaged you any location or if she had a cut on your hand. HIV is transmitted only through penetrative sex or direct injection of infected material deep into tissue. Still this was an entirely no risk of that with no need for testing of any sort. There is no scientific reason for testing of any sort and no reason for you to avoid unprotected sexual exposure to your wife for any reason.
I hope the information as I have provided is helpful to you. Please don’t worry. If anything I have said is unclear please feel free to use your act to follow up questions for clarification. EWH
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49 months ago
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I don’t have a word to describe how grateful for your answer, so even if no condom on I mean it’s unlikely that people use come for hand job and I didn’t thought about it, the thing is and the only feeling is pain on the inner thigh, but I think it was from the tension that accompanied me at that time, and I even did ask friend of my he is a doctor and he said we don’t do HiV or Std test for this kind of exposure but I thought I need to make sure and ask an expert like you because I believe this is what I have to do, so Dr out of your experience there is nothing that I have to be worried of and I don’t need test for this kind of exposure and I have to forget it and move on my live , go back to my wife) hand job is save and I am not saying this because I think to do it again Never I will Never do such things like that it was my mistake I will stop going to massage to . And lastly just to educate my self about sexual relations the risk is unprotected Vaginal, rectal, or oral sex, which is rare, sharing needles with drug users, etc , ? Dr I wish you a good day and thank you so much your response was really good for my stress.
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49 months ago
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And one more thing i forget to write I meant I don’t know if she had cut in her hand not mine just thought to mention this because I think you thought cut in my hand) , thank you again Dr.
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Edward W. Hook M.D.
49 months ago
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You really have nothing to worry about. There is no need for concern or testing.
In terms of risk, when exposed to an HIV infected partner, risk would be highest if needles were shared, then condomless receptive rectal intercourse, then either insertive rectal or vaginal intercourse, then performing oral sex is still lower risk. Finally, there has never been a case of HIV proven to have been acquired from receipt of oral sex.
A cut on her hand would make no difference. Still no risk.
Hope this helps. EWH
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49 months ago
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This is my last question Dr, Thigh pain and slight swelling that occurred to me in the sole of the foot from the bottom for 3 to 4 days and then it disappeared and this made me worry and start a series of thoughts only but if you saying that I don’t have to worry then I guess this is nothing to think about? Thank you so much
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Edward W. Hook M.D.
49 months ago
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Final response. Your pain on the inner thigh is not a sign of HIV. Neither is the swelling that occurred on the bottom of your foot for several days. You have no reason to worry.
I hope my comments have been helpful. This completes this thread. Take care. EWH
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