11 days after my csw encounter,  she and I had unprotected sex. 12 days after she is now complaining about vaginal irritation on her lips and outtee part of her vagina hole. I looked and did not see blisters per say. She thinks it’s soap irritation that is making her vagina sore.

1. My question is what are the chances this imitation could be herpes? 

I never had symptoms and I am 95% confident the condom was on the whole time.  I didn’t check to see if the condom broke. I am very sure the condom was on most if not the whole time because I took it off to finish by hand. I only penetrated the girl for 30 seconds and the rest was me rubbing my head on her vagina trying to get hard. Never happens 

2. Is 12 days after one sexual encounter unlikely to be herpes?

3. If this is not simple soap irritation, what should I be on the look out for her that the unlikely std happened, such as she has vaginal irration for a week?

Sorry for the follow up question but I feel like a piece of garbage for what I did. I would never want to put my partner at risk. I just don’t want my guilt get the best of m and confess to some one in a million event.

Your professional assessment on this matter is appreciated. 

1,3. Neither herpes nor any other STD commonly causes "irritation" as the main symptom. Hard to know how to respond to your second-hand description of her problem, but I'll say that irritation from soap would not likely last more than a day or two. Any longer than that is concerning for a vaginal yeast infection, the most common cause of vaginal area irritation. Yeast isn't sexually transmitted, and neither herpes nor any other STD generally causes "irritation" as the main symptom.

2. I'm not sure I understand this question. If you mean does absence of symptoms at 12 days argue against you having a new herpes infection, the answer is yes -- most new herpes causes symptoms within a week.

Follow-up question:  Although some herpes infections cause no symptoms, that's usually in people oblivious and not worried and therefore not paying close attention to their genitals. Anxious persons on the lookout for a problem, like you, would usually notice the typical blisters, sores, etc. if there are no symptoms, i.e. no visible outbreak, it also would not likely be transmissible. 

HHH, MD

2. I did have maybe a min Condom protected sex with a CSW Dr Hook and I discussed in question 839, hence my heroes worry. You mentioned recent Oral sex. The exposure was condom oral for 3 mins and condom protect sex for maybe a min. The rest was me trying to get an erection and rubbing her vagina to get hard for maybe 2 mins then I took for the condom and finished by hand. 

3 . Based on the information you are saying it is very unlikely that my partners vaginal irritation is due to me having herpes and caused by yeast, soap or other issue?

Thanks doctor for responding. 

1. Yes. Onset of her symptoms at 12 days is very late for herpes onset. It doesn't completely exclude herpes, but when considering all the factors, there is no realistic chance that you caught herpes or that herpes is the cause of your partner's symptoms.

2. I understood all that. Apologies again for the error in my reply.

3. Correct:  "it is very unlikely that [your] partner's vaginal irritation is due to [you] having herpes...." As for what IS causing her symptoms, I can only guess. I've told you why yeast seems like a good bet and soap does not. But I am making no diagnosis; this forum is not meant as a substitute for in-person medical care. The way to sort this out is for her to be professionally examined. But of course that should be up to her, not you.