My boyfriend and I have been together for years. We had sex on Friday morning, (we don’t use condoms) I was a little sore afterwards but that happens often and then by Saturday I feel really itchy. I used my handheld mirror to take a look at what was going on and I saw lots white creamy discharge in the opening of my vagina so I wiped and it went away but I noticed a small amount was still there, in the bottom right-hand side, which is also he side I usually get a bartholins cyst,  so I wiped again, it remained, so I wiped harder and it came off but I realized it was a tad yellow and thicker in texture and the spot actually bled like I had popped a bump or something. I peed immediately after and I didn’t feel any pain, the actual spot doesn’t feel painful but it was really red. The next day, it seemed to have a hard white head. Fast forward to today, it’s still a small red bump with a white head. Could this be a herpes lesion? It is very mildly tender to touch as unless I’m looking at it, I don’t know it’s there. I’d like some guidance before going to test for no reason. 

I forgot to mention, once I wiped away the discharge, the itching went away as well

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I’ve never had a cold sore, though I have tested positive for hsv1 in the past by blood test, negative for hsv2. He’s never had a cold sore but I really don’t know if he’s ever been tested for either. It’s not ulcerated, just looks like a small red spot.  He does give oral sex. I do have a provider and I can make an appointment to go in, for sure

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