[Question #8314] NEW INFO: Final Follow up question for Question #5440 from years ago

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46 months ago
Hello, its me again back on this site from Question #5440 (has all background info). I havnt had sex in all this time for reasons like i havnt found a man I want to have sex with till now as well as the fear of this encounter in the back of head. The man that I had this original encounter with (which now looking back knowing what I know now was rape) is still trying to have sex with me and has claimed to have gotten tested for hsv2 every year with LAB BOX (which is credible to me) and has been negative every time and even showed me the email with results all of which checks out. 

I do not want to get tested. I know that is ridiculous but the CDC says that the lower the chance of a positive infection the higher the chance for a false positive. This is the only sexual encounter I have still ever had. I understand it is ridiculous that I wont get tested however I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder over this now 4 ½ year fear. I am wondering that with these multiple IGG negative tests I have obtained from the only man I have every been in contact with is a green light to have sex with different man (my current bf) who has also given me a negative test and I know he has not had sex with anyone in the past year so his test should be as accurate as possible. 

Please don't make me feel bad or silly for these questions or over the fact that I wont get tested due to a fear of the results. I already understand how ridiculous it is. I just feel like I shouldn't even have to get tested. If he is negative, and he is the only person I have ever encountered, then I as well am also negative. As in 1 + 1 = 2, negative  + negative = negative. I am also wondering if by the nature of the original contact with this man 4 years ago also gives me reason to not have to get tested as it was low risk to zero risk for oral and genital hsv2 to be passed in this way. (Also I am very grateful for this site as it has calmed my nerves greatly over the years of stress)
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Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
46 months ago
oh my goodness, I would never want you to feel bad or silly!  There are no bad or silly questions about herpes or any other STI!
You've had one partner.  He tests negative for HSV 2 and you have actually seen his results (which is more than most people get to see).  You have seen the negative results of your potential partner as well,  I would agree that given the anxiety that you feel about testing, that you don't need to bother. 
My question is this:  if you don't test, and believe all of these results you've seen from past and future partners, can your mind rest about this worry?  I sure hope so.  I know this has been such a challenge for you. 
BTW my concerns with the LabBox situation is false positives, not false negatives.  Which is clearly NOT the case with your past partner.

Terri
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46 months ago

The reason as to why I have freaked out about this is because two days after the original encounter Feb 16th 2019 my vagina area started to feel like pins and needles, it moved throughout my entire body but mostly in that area...it has never left in almost 5 years now, my throat also started hurting, it also felt generally uncomfortable down there like a yeast infection so I went and saw my first Dr. about it she tested me for yeast which came back positive. She encouraged me that my encounter possessed no risk for genital herpes. A week later my night marrer officially started, a pimple showed up down there on my labia and turned into an ulcer which later healed in two days after I applied salt directly to it. I knew if I wanted an accurate blood test I'd need to wait and I already missed the 48 hr culture swab accuracy time frame. 3 months later my vaginal area blew up with blood blisters, I went to my OBGYN and she said that I could have brought the virus down with my hand or that I created this all in my head. That killed me. She swabbed and cultured the blood blisters hours after I discovered them. They ulcerated and healed with no scabbing. The culture came back negative and she let me go with no diagnosis as she and the other drs in the office just found the entire thing odd as there number as usually in the 20s and honestly they all felt bad for me. She offered me a blood test but I was in the middle of college and a diagnosis like that would have killed me and looking back i don't regret it (you got HSV2 genitally from biting your nails and then touching yourself to shave even though you have never had sex: that is insane and completely unfair to say the least) A month later I started getting weird inflamed taste buds on my tongue, that look very herpetic to me, that I have never had before and then I finally got my first and only cold sore the next month (that would be 4 months after the original encounter). (the original man had cold sores hsv1 and I always assumed I did too as both my parents get them). Two years later the same pimple-like thing appeared in the same place and then a year later again another simple like thing in the same place each time getting smaller and smaller the pines and needles sensation go down as well over the years. So that's a total of 3 small pimples and one blood blister blow out over the course of 5 years. That to me checks out as HSV1 however I still don't want to believe that I transfer the virus myself I have no idea how I would have done that I don't even masterbate and I never shave down there. More reason for me to freak out. 


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46 months ago
please read about how I  did not actual have sex with this man from my pervious question.  I  sucked his dick for 15 seconds and went home. how could I     possibly have transferred anything down to that area (this also was my first kiss so I  can believe that I  got HSV1 orally that way, but genitally? 
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Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
46 months ago
Yes, I see that you didn't have intercourse with him.  You just gave oral sex to him.  I was initially confused because you said you were raped but now I understand.
I'm not clear how you came to the conclusion that you have HSV 1 genital infection here?  If I read this correctly, your swab test was negative. 
Herpes does not cause blood blisters. 
And I'm confused about what you said about numbers?  Did you have a test that gave you numbers?
Once a person has HSV 1 in one location on their body, it is extremely unusual that they would get it in a new location.  And I don't understand why your clinician thought you had HSV 1 that you transferred from your mouth to the genitals.

Terri
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