I’ve recently had a few bisexual experiences. They only included mutual handjobs and I never actually had any of them ejaculate. On two occasions, we mutually rubbed our penises together lightly. I am concerned that I may have contracted HPV or maybe even some other STD. My wife has a small bump on the one side of her vagina so I’ve convinced myself it’s a gentian wart from my stupidity. I’ve read these things can spread with no symptoms. She’s also developed a type of sore inside of her upper lip. Is it possible this is from HPV? I should mention, I’ve never let anyone use any fluid on me, I.e. semen, saliva etc. also, following any encounter I quickly wiped my Penis and hands with a sani wipe that’s 70percent Ethel alcohol. I’m so nervous I passed something along. We are both 39 years old and in good health. I have had no symptoms at all. Thank you for your time 

Hand-genital contact and non-insertive sex are truly zero risk for HIV and all STIs. Nobody can say the risk is zero for direct penis-penis contact, but I have never seen a patient with any infection that seemed to have been acquired in this fashion. HPV conceivably could, but not by such light, fleeting contact (the virus must be rubbed into the tissues for infection to take hold). In addition, HPV is not a possible cause of your wife's lip sore (which sounds like a garden variety canker sore). HPV never causes open sores or painful lesions. And assuming you and your wife have had other sex partners in the past, you and she almost certainly have already had HPV anyway and could still have active infections:  90% of all people are infected at least once. I cannot say whether or not her vaginal bump is a wart, but probably not: genital warts usually occur in clusters of several warts; and there are several potential causes of genital area or vaginal skin bumps other than warts caused by HPV. 

They call some infections sexually transmitted for good reason:  for the future, you can be sure that if there is no sexual transmission of any STD in the absence of insertive sex with another person -- i.e. nobody's penis inside another person's vagina or rectum (or mouth, but only very rarely).

I don't recommend testing for anything and you can safely continue unprotected sex with your wife without worry about infecting her with any STI.

I hope these comments are helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD

Thank you for your extensive answer. It makes me feel so much better. I don’t have any follow up questions at this time.

Thanks again