I just recently had questions answered by Dr. H and he has helped me. I do have a fear of HIV and OCD. I've had this for at least the last 18 years.  I'm really trying to put my irrational fears aside and live a happy life with my wife and family. I'll have times where I'm good and then there's something that triggers my worry.

The latest happened on thanksgiving day, I was called out to investigate a fire. I got there and see the owner and the first thing I do is shake his hand, then I see he has a bleeding scrape on his middle finger knuckle. I looked at my hand and did not see anything and have no cuts or scrapes. I try my best to shrug it off and not think about it. Knowing rationally, I did not touch the knuckle and you cant catch HIV from shaking hands. I'll admit, the what if's popped into my head at times.  

I had to go back and see the owner and found out that he had burned his right hand opening a door at the fire on thanksgiving. He showed me a 2-3 inch burn across his ring and pinky fingers at the crease of his fingers and palm.  The burn was second degree and blistered, he said the blister popped Saturday.  My fear is I touched the blistered burn when I shook his hand when I first met him. I understand that the liquid inside a blister is serum and I started to freak out that the liquid got on my palm and fingers. again I didn't see anything and my hand had no cuts! My worry really got me going yesterday and I actually called the guy and talked to him, I explained my ocd and anxiety and asked him if I should worry and he said NO he's healthy and does not have aids or anything. he understood my anxiety. I have nothing to worry about. I apologized for asking him and he said that's ok, if that's what it takes for you to sleep at night. He's in his 50's married 30yrs w 2 adult daughters. not that that matters.

Drs. do I have any risks or concerns?  can I have relations with my wife? How do I stop this fear? I really can't believe I'm going thru this ag

This is your sixth question on the forum, each one asking versions of the same questions and all reflecting your OCD in absence of realistic risk of HIV. This will have to be your last such question. Repeated questions with predictable answers, especially those that are driven by anxiety, are not permitted and are subject to deletion without reply and without refund of the posting fee. Repeated answers often prolong anxiety rather than helping relieve it, especially when OCD is involved, and such questions have limited educational value for other readers, one of the forum's main goals. Thank you for your understanding.

Best regards.