[Question #8631] Oral sex and condom ruptured

41 months ago

Hi doctor, i hope you can read my previous thread. I stay in Dubai, csw from Pakistan ( she has kids but because of some circumstances she started all these).
When i went on vacation to my home country. I had sex with my wife on first day and third day, fourth day she was complaining of fatigued and chills. After medicines she felt good. On 18th day she had the fever of 101 for one day.. Body aches 1 day... Headache 2 days, Sore throat one week.
I am really worried as maybe i am the unlucky one who got hiv from oral. Currently i am having occasionally stomach rumbling sound.

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

41 months ago

Welcome back, but sorry you found it necessary. I reviewed your discussion with Dr. Hook a few months ago and agree there is no chance you caught HIV from the events described. Your wife's initial symptoms began too soon to be due to HIV from sex when you returned home. Her later symptoms could be HIV, but also any number of other viral infections. For example, COVID-19 is a far more likely explanation: have either of you been tested for it? Vaccinated? "Stomach rumbling" is not a symptom of HIV.

Dr. Hook's advice last time was that you consider HIV testing for reassurance. I agree: many people are more reassured by a negative test result than by even the most expert, reasoned, and science-based advice. This does not mean I believe there is any chance you are infected: I do not. (Do not try to tell me HIV testing isn't feasible in Dubai. There are good STD/HIV clinics there that have excellent track records of total confidentiality. Google "STD clinic Dubai".)

Even without testing, you can be certain you do not have HIV. But if you decide to test, feel free to let me know the result. However, I will have no further comments or advice until and unless you have been tested. In the meantime, I hope these comments are reassuring.

HHH, MD

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41 months ago

Thank you doctor for your reassurance, actually after last interaction with Dr hook i was relaxed.
As i am regular visitor of this site,and you always say if you can't test ask your partner to get tested. I asked that csw to get tested for hiv. And her result was negative. But after my wife's ARS like symptoms i got scared and anxious again.
As these clinics are confidential what if they have given me wrong negative report? because they have to report it to the government if positive.

41 months ago

Adding... I am fully vaccinated for covid and while traveling my pcr was negative. And my wife had one dose of covid vaccine 4 weeks back.

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

41 months ago

I see no reason to not trust the lab report, especially since you were at zero risk for HIV anyway. Most clinics that do STI/HIV care (anywhere in the world) take great care to not mix up patients specimens: the clinics' confidentiality standards don't reduce the reliability of the results; probably they increase it. And there are many causes of symptoms identical to ARS other than ARS itself. Your wife should see her doctor if her symptoms continue and/or she remains concerned. But you can be confident they have nothing to do with your other sexual exposure(s).

And as already suggested (and since you understand the clinics' confidentiality policies), you can always get tested yourself for reassurance. Either way, it's past time to stop asking about this, please. Suck it up and move on without worry!

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41 months ago

Thank you very much doctor for giving me confidence to do the test. My result came back negative. Do you recommend any other STI test for me. I have my medical check up from Dubai government for visa renewal by next month. Usually they check hepatitis B&C and HIV.

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

41 months ago

I'm very glad to know you were tested. Congratulations on the negative result (but of course not surprised). I see no need for any other STI testing.

That concludes this thread. I hope the discussion has been helpful. Best wishes and stay safe!

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