[Question #8666] Curious

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41 months ago
I am divorced male. I’m bisexual but have never explored my bisexuality before. I’ve only been in relationships with women my whole life and I’ve always used protection unless I was in a committed relationship. I got an HIV test 2 years ago and was negative. Since then I only been with one woman. She and I were in a committed relationship. She got tested every year and was always negative. Since we broke up last year I’ve decided to explore my bisexuality. I met a guy online who expressed to me that he is clean. I played it safe we did oral. Gave and received. He put oils on my anus and rubbed his penis in between my glutes. He never went inside me but he did try. I know all this is low risk but he did cum in my eye. My eye got red. I asked him again if he was clean and he seemed to get offended by the question. After that night I never heard from him again. I know my exposure is low risk. Let’s say he lied to me and did have hiv am I in great risk by the exposure I described. I think I played it safe. Eventually I want to bottom and condoms will be a must
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Edward W. Hook M.D.
41 months ago
Welcome to our farm and thanks for your questions. I’ll be glad to comment. I agree with you that the exposures with your new partner that you described were low risk. No penetration, virtually no risk. Similarly the fact that he ejaculated in your eye was also a very, very low risk event, even in the unlikely situation that he had HIV.  Where are you, I would not be particularly worried about the event you describe.

A word of advice however. As you begin to explore your sexuality with new partners, in addition to correct and consistent condom use, you might want to consider using HIV pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) in which you take one pill a day which is highly effective for prevention of HIV. PrEP is widely available and highly effective. 

I hope this information perspective is helpful to you. EWH
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