Dear Dr, I am a male and I recently met another male ...we just kissed ...did some foreplay ...he had his boxers on ad he rubbed his penis with boxers on my anus ...he didn't oenetrate..since I'm a virgin I would hv felt it i assume ...but he fingered me and he used he spat in my anus...he spat just once...I'm worried to death that u may have got hiv ...lz help..I have never had anal sex ...had protected oral sex a month back after which I got tested...do I need to test again after this incident....are such activities  considered safe ???

Welcome to our Forum.  I'll be pleased to provide you with some information.  The activities you describe did not put you at risk for HIV or for,other STIs.  Neither HIV nor STIs are spread through clothing (even clothing that is wet with genital secretions) in saliva (spit), if by masturbation (fingering).  Thus there is no reason for concern and you do not need testing.  All is well.  These activities are entirely safe.  EWH---

Thanks dr ....just wanted to know wat if he had blood in his mouth and the saliva contained blood?he spat inside my anus and fingered my anus ..he also wore his boxers and rubbed and grindr his penis on my ass..there was no penetration I guess ..I didn't feel penetrated but felt his penis rubbing my asshole wiyh his boxers on ...could there hv been slight penetration possible with his boxers 

Even when people have blood in their mouths leading to blood in the saliva, exposure to saliva does not put you at risk for HIV. The same is true for persons who may have mouth sores or dental disease- still no problem.  You have nothing to worry about related to the events that you describe.  EWH
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Thanks so much dr...just for the future..since I'm a bisexual male ..and I have recently discovered it...I find it difficult to even kiss a guy bcoz hiv is quite rampant among gay men ...which activities would be no risk which I could continue without being worried about ?i never do anal sex...are other activities completely safe ? How do I protect myself in the future?thanks  again 

I'll provide some information:

Safe sexual activities with no risk for HIV include kissing of any sort including open mouth kissing, mutual masturbation even if you get your partner's genital secretions on you, rubbing (frottage) without penetration.  There is no known risk of receiving oral sex and the risk of performing oral sex on an infected partner is very, very low, less than 1 infection per 10,000 exposures on average.  Penetrative sex including vaginal sex with an infected woman is riskier, about a 1 in 1000 average exposure risk and rectal sex is higher- about 1 in 200 average exposure risk for receptive rectal sex.  condoms are highly effective for reducing HIV risk as long as they are used throughout the sex act and do not break. 

Also, I recommend that you ask partners if they are infected or have been tested.  Most people do tell the truth. 

I hope you find this information helpful.  This is my third reply to your posts so I will need to close this thread now.  If you have further questions you will need to open a new thread.  Take care.  EWH

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