Had 1st bi experience with a man I met online (he's a doctor with over 35 years experience including testing and treating STIs, which was reassuring). At his house, he performed oral on me and we finished with mutual masturbating. I know both of those activities carry virtually no risk, despite the fact that I had a small cut on one of my knuckles. We also tried anal, with me as the bottom. He wore a condom the entire time, although he had to take off the condom and put a new one on because he had trouble maintaining an erection. I was right next to him when he did this and I did not observe any broken condoms nor did he report one. I even reached out to him a week or so later and he verified that all condoms were intact when he took them off. All was fine until the next day when I entered a period of deep anxiety, probably fueled by the fact that I had cheated on my wife and spending hours on the Internet searching HIV symptoms. Did not have any "standard" ARS symptoms, but at around weeks 2-3, I started experiencing this generalized itchiness/prickliness that has come and go even until today (feeling it now). I believe this is due to anxiety, because I don't notice it much when my attention is focused on something else and it comes and goes. Around weeks 4-5 I felt this off and on soreness in my groin, adductors, and thighs. I run a lot, and my ortho attributed it to that and put me on PT, but still it felt "different" (anxiety). Took Oraquick test at 37 days (5.5 weeks) -- negative (which rationally I should have expected). Guess my question is should I move past this? Feel like getting a medical expert's opinion would help me shake the anxiety and help me put this behind me. Could my "symptoms" even be ARS? Could they come and go and last this long (it's been 11 weeks now)? I know probably not, but your opinion would definitely help me.

Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your question. Thanks as well for your detailed history. I think you have largely answered the question yourself and my task is to reassure you that you are correct. ---

I don’t know my partner’s status, but he was insistent he was negative and regularly tests every 6 months. He’s been very straightforward and reassuring — nothing comes across as “off.” So you are good with the 5+ week Oraquick result? That’s a relief. I’m hoping the itchiness/muscle soreness works itself out. Isn’t it reasonable to assume these things are anxiety-related. I had no health issues and had just come off a physical with a complete bill of health the week before the incident. Maybe those symptoms will abate as I come to the realization that I’m okay. If not, I’ll see a mental health specialist. Amazing what the mind can do to the body. Thank you, and it’s good to hear from someone from UAB!

Thanks for your thanks. I didn’t mention you were itching so let me point out that on occasion when individuals are concerned and on the lookout for symptoms they not uncommonly tend to notice otherwise normal sensations which would otherwise be overlooked. The fact that your itching has come and gone and it’s not noticed when you were distracted is consistent with us. ---

Just a couple of follow up questions, then I promise I’m done!

Straight to your f/u questions:---