I have tested negative for hiv at 35 and 85 days so I think I am clear for that as you said in your last post.

Just trying to get your thoughts on my symptoms, all these started around 3 months after exposer and I still have them now a month and a half later.

Maybe Anxiety?

Thanks 

Your risk for syphilis was as low as it was for HIV, i.e. near zero. Most syphilis in the US currently is in men having sex with men, and the chance your female partner has it is very low. And you used a condom, which is highly effective in prevention. Absence of a chancre at the obviously exposed site (your penis, above the condom) is additional reassurance. Finally, the symptoms you describe don't even hint at syphilis. But since you're concerned, it would make sense to have a syphilis blood test. At this point, i.e. over 3 months after exposure, a negative result will be conclusive. (Your symptoms also don't suggest HIV, and you've already had conclusive tests for that, so nothing more to say about it. HIV testing overrules any and all symptoms, no matter what they are.) And yes, these symptoms sound entirely consistent with anxiety magnifying trivial symptoms or even normal body sensations that you otherwise would not find concerning and might not even notice. Finally, when someone suggests his or her own symptoms have a psychological origin, usually s/he is right!

So all is well. If you'd like additional reassurance, have a syphilis blood test. You can count on a negative result.

I hope these comments are helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD

Thank you again for what both of you are doing!

The mind is a funny thing 

That concludes this thread. Best wishes and stay safe.