I am a 40 yr old female and AA. My ex-partner is 54, AA. We discussed testing and STIs. I shared my test results for all STIs including HSV and HPV. My ex-partner also got tested and shared his results. His doctor did not test for HSV.  His doctor said without symptoms, there was no reason to test. He does get cold sores from time to time, however, he claimed he never had sores on his penis. We limited kissing and oral sex if he had a cold sore, which was two occasions in 10 weeks.

 We have engaged in sex a total of 11 times. 8 instances were protected with unprotected oral. The first instance of unprotected sex occurred because he thought he was in the clear with his test results. The next morning, I bought Plan B and I informed him that I am unwilling to have sex without condoms. He complied. I began a regimen for birth control in July.

 Two days ago, I was intoxicated and we engaged in sex. He admitted that he did not wear a condom, twice, he is only sleeping with me and he is negative for several STIs. I broke up with him because I feel disrespected.

I am just in need of a quick assessment of my risks for both pregnancy and HSV from the last two occurrences of unprotected sex. I did take an additional regimen of Plan B. I am experiencing vaginal itching on my labia major, not on my labia minor or in the vaginal opening. I have not seen any suspicious bumps; however, I was told that HSV does not always present symptoms. I really did what I could to avoid being irresponsible. 

Good Morning NP Terry, 

I looked you up on Google and perused your Westover heights site. I read a story where a woman had unprotected sex about 4-5 times and developed HSV. It scared the crap out of me. I thought oh man, this is me. This must be me. https://westoverheights.com/forum/question/test-results-interpretation-please/

Per my medical history, I was tested for both HSV I and II and HPV this past May. I had not had sex in over 15 months; however, I went to the doctor because I continued to have these weird itchy and red flareups on my labia majora and minor. Along with some discomfort in the vaginal opening. The NP in the OBGYN office was thorough with testing for HPV, HSV I and II, trich, BV, yeast, and a UTI screening. The UTI and Yeast came back positive. The NP said this was an ongoing infection, I did confess that I had been having problems for over a year, but my GP did not see anything concerning. The NP believed the UTI and Yeast infection was caused by not being able to use the bathroom as needed with my demanding job working with at-risk youth. I can't leave students unattended until my shift was over.  The antibiotics relieved the pressure for the UTI, I did not have intense pain, just consistent pressure, and mild discomfort. The Yeast infection was treated with two Diflucan pills. It cut the itching quite a bit. Not 100%. I was told to give my body time to heal. 

Suffice it to say, I did start having sex in June and we did exchange test results. My ex-partner and I only had sex on the weekends because he has his young son during the week. He had not been tested in three years and was negative for the majority of STIs, his doctor did not test for HSV I or II was he did not see any concerns on his penis. I have heard that many doctors avoid HSV testing, not sure why. 

 I did reach out to him, however, he is pissed that I broke things off. I was shocked because he had sex, without a condom, twice, while I was passed out from too much alcohol. 

My main symptoms have been consistent itchy spots on my labia major, especially within the top crease. The itching happens in different spots at different times throughout the day. The labia minor is sometimes red. Sometimes there is a mild burn during urination. I don't want to keep running to the doctor, however, could the yeast infection really have not been knocked out with Diflucan? Realistically, do I need to run back to the doctor for another HSV I and II test? I know in some instances that HSV I and II can be mild and mistaken for other things. Aside from persistent itching in different areas of my labia, those are the main symptoms that have plagued me this summer. PS-total amounts of unprotected sex (three times) along with unprotected oral between both parties. No presence of sores on my lips or labia. No noticeable discomfort near the vaginal opening. Keep me posted.