[Question #920] HELP.

50 months ago
First off, I would like to thank you guys for your services and knowledge. I sincerely appreciate it!

I had sex with someone whose herpes status is unknown. He said he was clean, but you know you can't trust people's word nowadays. We had intercourse twice in one night and used a condom both times. I also inspected his penis to make sure that there were no sores, and I did not see any. 

What are the chances of me contracting genital herpes from this incident? 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
50 months ago
If he wore a condom the entire time, the risk of you acquiring herpes form him, if he has it, is extremely low.  One new study showed a 96% reduction in transmission from males to females in men who used condoms faithfully.  So the chances, with two intercourses, both condom protected, are incredibly low.  Good job with the inspection and condom use.  Very important

Terri
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50 months ago
Thank you for the information, Terri! 

Yes, he wore a condom both times! I even gave him oral sex with a condom on and made him change it before we had sex again. I visually inspected his entire penis- front, back and balls, but not so much his pubic area. It was just hairy and I didn't see anything alarming, but I didn't visually inspect it thoroughly. I don't know if herpes affects the pubic area commonly? 

The only thing that concerns me is that when we first started kissing he took his penis out of his pants and I was sitting on top of him. I was fully clothed, wearing a dress, but I had a thong on. I jumped off as soon as I realized he took his penis out.

Questions: 
1. Would you be worried about contracting herpes from this incident if you were me? 

2. If his penis touched me with my thong on, could he still pass something to me? I know thongs have very little protection. 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
50 months ago
No, I wouldn't be worried if I was you.  You would not get herpes 1) through a thong and 2) with such an incredibly brief encounter.  Thongs probably offer more protection than you might think, but in this situation the encounter was so very brief.  I would put your worries to rest here - you're good

Terri
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50 months ago
Thank you so much for your patience and advice, Terri. I have a few last questions.

As you might be able to tell, I have OCD. So I always think about the "what ifs". At the end of the encounter, I might have sat on his penis without protection for possibly a minute. I had no underwear on. We were not humping or rubbing, I was just sitting on top of him. I believe this could be called naked frottage. However, no rubbing was involved. What are the chances of contracting herpes from this? 

I also have an anal fissure that I have been worried about. I went to the doctor the other day and she confirmed that it was an anal fissure, but so no infection or swelling. She could tell I have anxiety and then asked "I can swab it for herpes and send it to the lab if you'd like". I panicked and asked does it look like herpes and she replied "no, it doesn't". 

It's also been 7 days out and I have not had symptoms yet. 

Questions:
1. What are chances of me contracting genital herpes if I sat on his penis without protection?

2. Do you believe the doctor would have indeed swabbed the fissure if she thought it was possibly herpes? 

3. It's been 7 days post encounter.. Can I rest assure yet that I will not get symptoms of herpes? 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
50 months ago
1.  virtually zero
2.  Yes, I do.  Did she swab?
3. Our usual time frame is 2-10 days but your risk is so terribly low that I don't think you have to wait 10 days for symptom

Terri
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50 months ago
Hi Terri,

I do not know if I have to pay for a new round of questions or not. But the doctor did not swab the fissure because she said it did not look like herpes. She just said she would swab it for my own comfort, but I said no because of  my anxiety. 

Do you think it's okay that I didn't have it swabbed since the doctor said it did not look like herpes? When she looked at it, she said it looked like a fissure. 
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
50 months ago
Yes, I think it is fine that it was not swabbed since the doctor felt clearly it was a fissure.  Add that to the extremely low/non-existent risk, and you're good to go!

Terri
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