From that discussion, it is apparent you are new to sexual experiences with other men, which makes it even more understanable that symptoms appearing soon after a sexual experience might be of concern. However, you are exactly right in understanding that your symptoms are typical of a "run-of-the-mill sore throat typical of this time of year." The sexual contacts described were entirely free of HIV risk:  HIV isn't transmitted between men without penile-anal penetration; even unprotected oral sex carries little or no risk. Hand-genital contact, fingering, kissing, and frottage are risk free. And sore throat alone is not likely due to HIV.

So from a medical or risk perspective, I would not advise testing and it will be entirely safe to resume unprotected sex with your wife. For still more reassurance, you could get in touch with your partner and confirm his presumed negative HIV status. That said, as you enter this new sexual world, I would strongly urge you to never have sex -- even entirely safe sex as described here -- without first discussing HIV status with your partner. Intended safe sex often becomes unsafe in the heat of the moment, so don't take chances! People rarely are untruthful about this when asked directly. In adddition to HIV negative partners, those who are infected and on effective treatment -- with undetectable viral load -- are entirely safe.

I hope this informtion is reassuring and otherwise helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD