Firstly I’m so glad I found this site, I have spent the last 24 hours browsing other forums and got some really clear and precise answers. Unfortunately I read more and got slightly confused on what my risks are so I thought why not firstly contribute to the site as well as get a personalised health plan in return so I have paid my fee. 

I have recently started to explore my gay side for many many months it’s just been chatting on Grindr and the likes (I’m going to say this is no risk haha) 

I got talking to a guy who was lovely and just as anxious as I am in regards to sexual health difference is he is far more sexually actively than I am (I have never done anything with anyone) however he always plays safe and test every three month - he’s not a sleep around but he’s been open an honest and had a few guys. His last test was October and all clear. He’s 40 and really kind I have no reason to doubt his honesty to be fair.

Anyway I decided to bite the bullet and meet up with him, for a coffee at first but we ended up in the bedroom. 

Activities was :

Both of us entirely naked

Kissing

A bit of body rubbing, but as far as I can tell or remember our penis didn’t touch neither did his penis touch my anus at any point although he did rub it on my bum cheeks. 

I played with his penis with my hand, he played with mine with his hand.

We may have swapped this around a bit 

I came he did not.

Afterwords I cleaned myself with a towel and he gave me hand sanitizer for my hands and I used this. 

Got dressed and left 

I just want to know with this been my first experience what I need to test for and when. 

I have rang the sti clinic locally but they are on strike and only seeing emergency until the new year. I guess I should see this a good thing I’m not an “emergency”. 

And also I fully support their strike action the uk is in bits right now. 

Anyway thanks for your insight you can provide and further more thank you so much for this service. On behalf of everyone who reads this site. 

Merry chei

Regarding the specific activities you describe, I see no reason for concern about STIs.  STIs are rarely transmitted through kissing and are not transmitted through mutual masturbation, even when partners happen to get each others' genital secretions on one another.  As a rule- no penetration, no risk and for that reason, I see no reason for testing of any sort related to the activities you describe.  

As you move forward in this relationship or with other partners, I would encourage you to be sure you have been vaccinated against HPV, hepatitis B, and monkey pox - the vaccines are highly effective and have few side effects.  In addition, in addition to asking partners regarding their own STI/HIV histories and recent testing (most people do tell the truth), condoms are highly effective for reducing the risk of STI/HIV when worn throughout penetrative sexual encounters.  Even with these practices, we also recommend periodic (at least yearly) screening for STIs which may be asymptomatic at any site of penetrative exposure (penis, rectum and throat) and blood tests for syphilis and HIV both to detect any suprise infections and for the reassurance they provide.

I hope that this information is helpful.  If you have further questions, you have up to two follow-ups.  EWH