I have read many of your responses to question's asked in regard to oral sex. I see where you say that there has never been a scientifically documented case of HIV transmitted by performing cunnilingus or recepetive oral, and a few cases where infection occured as the result of performing oral on an infected person. You indicate that it would be rare for this to occur. According to the CDC 1 in 20000 for receptive oral and 1 in 10000 for performing oral on a female or a male. The CDC also states on its fact sheet that there is little to no risk getting or transmitting HIV through oral sex. They go on to say its hard to estimate the risk because people who have oral also have anal and vaginal. 

Also wouldn't it be more risky to perform unprotected oral on a male than a female? Due to semen and exposure to the virus from a female?

I also see where the risk of condom protected sex and performing cunnilingus - you say are about the same? Is that correct?

Thanks

Patrick

For rare or virtually non-existent events such as acquisition of HIV through receipt of oral sex, risks are estimated based on a combination of data sources including studies of known exposure to infected partners, studies of high risk persons with numerous exposures, reports of individual cases based on isolated instances and discussion with other experts.  For the areas your ask of, receipt of oral sex from an infected partner and cunnilingus, we, like the CDC and other expert sources use all of these sources of information.  Thus:

The risk of each when the condoms are used correctly and consistently are virtually zero.

Hope this helps.  EWH

You will have to forgive me - I became sexually active in the late 70's early 80's. As such I have always been or had a hightened aniexty surrounding HIV 

I have had unprotected vaginal sex perhaps no more than twice in my life - and the fear of acquiring HIV was and continues to be overblown for me mentally. Both times that I did I tested negative. I have conversations with sexual partners before we have sex. But I still have that fear. The last time I had sex it was protected vaginal and unprotected oral both ways. My partner was age 42 I am 62 - we talked about testing and safe sex - she said she does not have any sti's. I have no reason not to believe her. Perhaps 10 days post the incident - I had symptoms that truly did not think much about at the time - started with chills - then I had a milld fever - a slight sore throat that lasted about a day - no true body aches - no lymp node swelling - no rash - I was able to drive a car catch a plane - did not feel really sick - and i developed a cough and had green mucus spit up for quite a while - unfortunately my fear took over - although logically I realize that - seeing some of you and Dr Hansfield remarks from others that more than likely it was a cold a flu - respitory or the covid virus and symptoms are unreliable indicators. Some times I get a tingling on left side of my neck. I think I know every indicator of HIV. But also realize that they are more common as well in people with out HIV.

I am choosing to look at this logically and I truly believe that both of you would tell me to manage my fear and there should be no worry about HIV - from this incident - would that be correct?

You are correct.  I urge you to put these concerns behind you.  Further, from what you say, it sounds as though your unwarranted fears are probably seriously hampering your mental health as it relates to healthy sexuality.  This is something you should address with confidential, professional counseling.  I am not suggesting you are "crazy" just that you need some help in putting these unwarranted fears into a healthy perspective.  I say this out of concern for you- nothing more.  EWH

So I have seen that you both say that there is no scientifically proven cases of a acquiring hiv through performance of cunnilingus on an infected person ? Is that correct - there are only claims that some have said that’s how they were infected. 

I appreciate your help 

Patrick

Thank you 

This completes this thread.  Please don't worry.  EWH